ScubaSteve
Wow.....what a DB
Speaking for myself primarily, I let the OP have it not because he admitted being a new diver and having some things to learn. He came onto SB to not accept any of that but to HAMMER a DM who just did her job. He was at fault and not her. Had he come here and said here is a report and it was bad but I guess I need to learn some stuff....this thread would have gone a different way. He joined only to lambaste an innocent. This never goes well here on ScubaBoard.
Wow, the original poster is getting hammered. Weren't we all newbie divers at one point ? At least they gave a detailed report listing their issues. I agree, many of the issues were his/her own responsibility, but I bet other new divers would like a lot of guidance and assisstance too. In my experience in the Caribbean, most of what the OP expected, is typically provided by the DM/shop. You can call it great service or hand holding. Even though it's not required, it's what I normally see/experience in the Caribbean.
Ultimately, everything is the diver's responsibility. The kinder, gentler tone of the Basic Scuba forum may educate better than the free-for-all here. Although the OP did bash the dive op, taking the high road in responding to his post may have helped the OP resolve his issues and change his opinion of the dive op.
With no DM in the FL keys last month, it was a good learning experience. I planned my dives much more thoroughly and modified the standard dive plan as the trip progressed to take into account things I learned on previous dives. I was much more conservative on this trip than I had been on other "resort" dives with a DM that I have done. Consequently I felt more confident in my abilities and much more in tune with my limitations.