It's certainly difficult. But, in the OP, the exact wording was "ended up in deco and spent 20 minutes at safety stop”, which likely indicates less than 20 minutes of deco.I find it extremely hard to believe that someone diving an AL 80 could accumulate 20 minutes of deco and still have the gas to do it.
Many rec computers (Suunto) will have you do the deco, then still do a safety stop. That's still 15+ min of deco, but the computer could be already set to "punish" her for violations on the last dive, which some rec-only computers do.
Alternately, she could have accumulated 5-10 minutes of deco, then voluntarily extended the safety stop to 8 or 15 per RDP rules, even though they don't apply.
Agreed completely, I'm familiar with some that don't have the concept of NDL at all, just deco tables; every dive treated as a deco one, however little of it there is.3. Provided the proper redundancy, planning and support is there, staged decompression diving is perfectly normal. In some training disciplines it is introduced very early in the dive's experience and is unremarkable in some regions.
The only thing that makes OP-like situations dangerous is that vacation-style rec diving has chosen a different approach, to take only the absolute minimum of equipment, barely tolerant of a single failure between two sets, and use the surface as a safety net for everything.
Air issues - ascend; buoyancy issues - drop weights thus ascend; buddy separation - ascend; forgot to plan the dive - run the SPG down to X bar/psi and ascend.
That's the issue with deco in vacation gear, not the difficulty of performing controlled decompression. Since rec gear and training relies on immediate ascent as the only response to most emergencies, deco obligations leave them without a response at all. This makes deco diving 2-3 orders of magnitude safer in a tec rig than in a rec one (multiple vs single failure away from possible death), so people racking up a genuine deco obligation in rec gear put themselves at risk comparable to an entire career of tec diving, not a single tec dive.
The only things that keep them from clogging up A&I are computer conservatism and the small capacity of common rental tanks.