nope, when the valve is open and the oriface is away from the seat material the whole force of the tank pressure is behind the gas ripping by the HP seat as it makes it way to fill the LP side negative pressure caused by the inhalation cycle. Once the LP side of the reg is equalized with ambient the valve shuts and the seat is no longer under as much pressure....on the inside of the area where the oriface makes a seat, the outside is still subjected to tank pressure.
Sorry, this does not make any sense. The presence of slightly higher air pressure or increased air velocity (which the presence of itself is a very dubious claim) around the seat will not cause any extra wear on it. That's just silly. It's a solid material, not an o-ring. It has to take repeated contact with a sharp edge thousands of times. How would a little extra air pressure, even if its "ripping by" cause any wear? The thing that could cause wear would be increased pressure causing either the orifice or the piston to contact the seat with greater force or velocity, and that just does not happen in balanced stages as long as IP is stable. I'm not sure why you're having trouble picturing this.
Try an experiment; check IP on any balanced 1st stage at 500 PSI, 3000 PSI, and 3500. (or as high as you want) If the IP is the same, that must mean that the amount of force pushing the seat and orifice/piston together is the same. There's no way around that one that I can think of.
Now, if you found that IP creeped quite a bit at high supply pressures like 3500+, then I would agree that there's more force on the seat.
This is a good one for Luis, maybe he'll weigh in.
BTW, I'm not sure what you're referring to with "when the LP side is equalized with ambient"... The LP side of the 1st stage is IP, not ambient. I'm sure you know that. And flow through the seat/orifice valve and into the 2nd stage is also not determined by supply pressure but by IP and the demand placed by the 2nd stage.
I'm pretty sure that the only parts of a balanced 1st stage that will experience more wear as a result of higher supply pressure are soft seals that directly hold supply pressure from ambient. Those would be the hp piston o-ring and the balance chamber o-ring in a diaphragm reg, as well as any o-rings that seal the HP seat retainer and yoke/DIN connectors.