If my buddy requires it, fine I'm happy to stay. If he wants to leave me on deco, that's fine too. Don't really care one way or the other. But what you have to understand is that most of my buddies have more big solo dives in caves than most people have dives.... period. They really don't care if you leave them at 10'. Now the flipside of the coin... this isn't my philosophy with all divers, just some divers. Hell, even just a select few divers. I know a girl who has spent the last 20 minutes of a cave exit throwing up over and over again. There's no way I'm going to leave a weak diver in the water, even if they think their okay with it
There's nothing I "have to understand"... you're okay to leave (some) people in the water, based on your assessment of their dive skills/situation - I'm not. Whether they're okay with it or not, or how many millions of dives they have is not a factor. It's not about whether they require it, it's my decision not theirs