I've always been able to separate the public person from the private. None of us are saints. I don't admire JYC for his family values or his interpersonal relationships; I do appreciate the contribution he made to opening the public's eye to the UW world and the innovative way he and his companions met the challenges that entailed.
Lot's of us dream about doing something big but don't so are we really in a position to judge what someone would do in those circumstances. Ever tried to raise a few million for something knowing the deal hinged on your reputation as being the leader in that field. An ego awash in a sea of egos, all of whom would be just as willing to pull you down if it meant they could secure what little funding there was for their project.
I'm not making excuses, I'm just saying I am not qualified to judge because I have never been put, or have put myself, in such a position. I do know I have moments when I imagine a different life where I don't have the never ending commitment of a family so I could buy the equipment I want, travel and pursue my underwater dreams. My moral compass stops me from totally abandoning the family ship but at the expense of mostly abandoning the dream ship. As a result I"m a half assed father, a half assed husband and a half assed diver. Sometimes I bitch about my fate but I know that people who achieve their dreams MAKE it happen and sometimes it's not "pretty" personally. I like to think I'm a good guy but perhaps I'm just too afraid of being thought a bad guy.
JYC's family life was his business, not mine.