kr2y5, Why are you trying to make this someone else' problem?
Jax, you probably did not mean it that way, but the reply above sounds somewhat accusatory, and it projects onto me negative intentions. I have no such intentions. As stated earlier, I do not think anyone besides Guy bears any responsibility, moral or otherwise, for his actions, so no, I am certainly not trying to assign blame to anyone.
As far as making it other people's problem, it seems to me a lot of people here have made it their problem. Besides, what does this really mean?
Rather than approaching things like this from the "blame" mindset, I prefer to approach them from a constructive mindset, and in this context, the question seems perfectly relevant to me...
No one, but NO ONE, has the right to control another human being. The fact that this guy was in full control of his facilities and made this decision has nothing to do with the rest of us! The man was trained. His ego overrode common sense and experience. NOT OUR FREAKING BUSINESS to regulate him.
There is a difference between "controlling" someone vs. simply influencing them to do something differently. My question was whether there might have been a better strategy for influencing the person to not do what they set out to do, or a better way to communicate with them. The reason I asked is, because I thought a lot of what I saw on SB seemed pretty heavy-handed and counterproductive.
If you see your distant relative or friend drinking himself to death, and you care, you might ask yourself whether you can talk the person out of it even though you bear no responsibility for their actions. That's not "controlling".
As I said, I have no idea whether someone tried to reach out to them directly, and what they experiences were. If someone did, I would be very much interested in hearing how this all went down, not with the intent to criticize, but to learn something valuable from the experience.
Likewise, there is a difference between being "responsible" or "to blame" for someone's actions, and voluntarily doing something to prevent that from happening. Do you think nobody has the right to even make a try to influence another person? Probably not...
... and if so, why would it be a wrong question to ask whether the influencing strategy adopted in this case was the most productive it could have been?
Andy's article included a section about groupthink, suggesting that Guy surrounded himself with folks who are unlikely to criticize him... if the community were to heed its own advice, perhaps instead of concluding that everything that could've been done was done the best it could've been, it does make sense to pause and ask, what could've been done better.