As for a computer for deco diving with mixed gasses, I use these three in combination:
A PC with V-Planner, an OMS bottom timer, and my brain.
I plan the dive with V-planner and my brain, tape my dive plan and early abort/overstay contingency plans onto a wrist slate, and use a bottom timer and my brain to execute the dive according to plan. IMHO, I don't need or want a mix computer that handles anything more complicated than nitrox.
If I don't go into the dive with a deco plan, I'm not doing deco. If I have a plan, I don't need a computer to tell me how to execute the dive.
My advice is to go ahead with the reg purchase by all means, and consider buying two identical first and second stage sets, but don't spend good money on a tech computer when you have no need for it. Unless you already have a nice set of doubles with independant first and second stage regulators, and a deco bottle with independant first and second stage regulator, a tech computer purchase is putting the cart well before the horse. Even if you do have that stuff, most of the tech divers I know don't use computers for deco diving.
Just get another computer like the one you have in the mean time, and let your wife use that. It'll serve you well for all of your future recreational diving, and may even double as a bottom timer for future tech use.
Tech diving is uber-expensive enough without wasting money.