Holy piling on, Batman! Okay okay, I get it. I, too, am perplexed by the OP's experience. Maybe not a "magical, mystical place" as someone alleged it's been portrayed, but I can see there are quite a few of us who feel strongly that Bonaire can have advantages over some of the other popular destinations. I will never try to argue Bonaire is a good fit for everyone, but it does seem well liked by many.
If I had to summarize my thoughts into just two points that are the polar opposite of the OP's experience, I would have to say:
1) I manage to get
more dives in on Bonaire trips than I do anywhere else except a liveaboard, not
fewer dives. More dives, and with less stress than I find a boat gives me. If I'm running 20 minutes late, people are not waiting for me on a boat. If I want to sit out a dive, I can do it without feeling like I'm losing money. Okay, you get the point: Freedom! I give that a
lot of weight. The OP seems to give more weight to other things. Fair enough. To each his own.
2) I end up spending less money per dive than I do anywhere else (liveaboard probably included). I think the OP recognizes that he's not going to get good value eating his meals out, but I believe he said he didn't like to cook. Well, that explains how Bonaire seemed expensive. I found the "nice" restaurants fun for the first few trips, but it's not like they're Michelin starred or something--in the restaurant universe, they are just okay and they are not a good value for thrifty people. If I want a nice meal out, I can do it back in the US. In Bonaire, I tend to be thrifty. I rent a condo with my dive buddies, and we often make breakfast out of the leftovers from dinner--breakfast never ends up being much of a cost. Lunch is sandwiches: buy a kilo of ham and a kilo of cheese from the supermarket when you arrive, and eat lunches on the beach between dives. If you go to a restaurant, sure, you'll be eating right into your afternoon dive time. Lunch is not the meal to eat out.* When we do take a night off and eat dinner out, it's Bobbejan's or something on the low end of the price scale. The Chinese places can be great fun, too.
*I'll make an exception for lunch out at the snack shacks that offer goat stew, when we happen to see one or set aside a day for that.
Imagine the nerve.. a Dutch grocery store on a Dutch island!
Of course there are many places to buy groceries on Bonaire. Van Der Tweel is great, offering most major US brands of anything you might want. But there are several other large stores, and a great many smaller shops.
"Van
den Tweel." If you're going to point out the Dutch-iness of it, at least get the name right.