1. If your ears equalize with difficulty (as mine do), do the Valsalva (SP?) technique (plug nose, close mouth, blow) an hour or so before your dive. Do it again in 30 min. If you can't pop your ears this way, you can't dive that day;
2. Descend slowly, very slowly. As you descend, your suit (wet or dry) will compress, so put small shots of air into your BC every 5 to 10 feet to keep your ascent slow - if you don't, you will accelerate;
3. Descending horizontally takes practice, but it will allow you to descend more slowly.
Just a guess, but if you "found yourself falling like a stone" you may have been very over-weighted at the surface, and when you dumped all the air out of your BC you might have found yourself at negative 5 or 8 lbs buoyancy instead of a more ideal negative 2 to 3 pounds (for a new diver). Perhaps decrease the lead you are carrying.