Last night over dinner, as I listened to my wife talking animatedly about her busy day, the thoughts of another person crept into my consciousness: "Cherish her while you can," he seemed to say, "for someday, too soon, she will be gone."
I'm going to nominate Jim Lapenta for my list of best posters.
On the meaning of chivalry in the modern age.
"For 9 years I opened every door for my wife, I even picked her up to put her in the car, bathed her, took her to the bathroom, and towards the end fed her as well. It is difficult for me now to not open doors for a lady. I told the woman I have been seeing now when she says I don't have run around and open the car door that she is lucky I don't lift her in and out. I became a better man for having to do the things I needed to do for Denise. The times I got wet in the rain, snow in my shoes, and stood in puddles were all worth it and I would give most anything to have to keep doing it. But that was then and this is now. It does not mean I no longer have to open doors, put an arm around the person I'm with, or instinctively move into a protective position when walking outside or even in the mall when there are gangs of little hoods running around.
There are those who for whatever reason think that being chivalrous and polite is being chauvinistic. They give the entire human race a bad name. I feel sorry for those women. I consider it a priviledge to be able to open a door or hold an elevator. When it is a part of your whole life and then that part is ripped away by death you realize just how much a little kindness towards others comes back to you in ways you cannot imagine, and at a much greater level than you could have possibly realized. Be happy that you have someone to hold a door open for. I don't know how old the OP is but as our society has aged and new generations emerged they seem to lose a little more decency, respect, and consideration each time. And political correctness and so-called equality has been a big factor in this. There is nothing wrong with equal pay and respect but it should not be at the expense of of just being a decent person."
- Jim Lapenta. April 18, 2010