Not sure I understand it all though
It's a complex subject, but pretty straightforward. Just take it piece by piece.
I checked the buoyancy of steel and aluminum tanks. What I found is about -7kg for steel and less than -2kg for aluminum (full).
You're correct, but typically we think in terms of empty weight, so that we can compare beginning and end dive (which removes 5# weight in a typical AL80 going to 500psi). So start with -2kg for average steel and +2kg for common aluminum. Plan on beginning of dive (-3kg carried air), and end of dive (-0.5kg carried air).
Personal buoyancy can be -2kg for a heavy-boned muscular male who can't float in a fresh water swimming pool, to +4kg for a "fluffy" diver in salt water.
Most bc's are 0 to -1 kg after buckles and D-rings, and after any open-cell foam gets saturated. Backplate and wing can be negative if there's a steel or aluminum plate. So you just carry less lead.
shouldn't I be able to lift another diver's weight (incl gear) in case of an emergency?
No. Don't plan on multiple failures. If he's unconscious, don't presume he's also got a failed bcd. Add enough air to his bcd to make him neutral and take him up. Then dump his weights on the surface.
If he's conscious but can't swim up against his failed bcd, have him dump
part of his weight until you two can ascend. Once wetsuit expansion makes him a tad light, you just hold him back with less air in your bcd.
I cannot imagine a shorty + me having buoyancy of +7kg.
Easily possible.
New 7mm stretchy neoprene shorty could be +4kg. Add body fat and it's conceivable. 75% of the wetsuit buoyancy is lost at 100ft.
Then do the math for needing to start up from the bottom at 100'.
Me: +2kg in salt water (70kg/173cm/avg build)
bcd: -1kg
Steel tank: -2kg
All carried air at dive start: -3kg
Wetsuit: +1kg after compression at depth
Carried lead for 7mm shorty at surface: -6kg
Total: -9kg
I really only need a 15lb wing, and can easily swim up against the remaining -2kg with a deep breath and a little finning... then my wetsuit starts to expand and it's zero added effort to ascend from 70' on up.
A 35# wing is really overkill.
And if you go to drysuit and carry 13kg lead for some reason? That's still only -16kg.
A 25# wing will work fine since you have redundant buoyancy in your drysuit. And with a hypothetical drysuit flood, just drop a few kg (not all!), inflate and go.
Finally: any other recommendations? I was also looking at the Scubapro Seahawk 2 (lift of 17-19kg depending on the size), Hydros Pro (16 kg), Aqualung Dimension (21kg) or Rogue (17kg).
Ask ten people and you'll get 15 recommendations. Of your list, I'd only consider the Rogue, except that I HATE the Sure-Lock weight system. Maybe the Seahawk.
But here's a thought...send a DM to
@Tracy and order a Hydro-Lite from Dive-Rite through him. It's a soft backpad and medium wing that will cover you for all that you've listed. Incredibly comfortable and light, it travels well and trims perfectly. It won't break the bank like the Hydros Pro. It lets you try out backplate and wing without the rigging complexity.
www.diverite.com
ScubaBoard is very wing-centric, but for a reason - it works.