Sounds like your primary objective is to extend your bottom times, and you are focusing on dialing in your weights and maximizing your air fills. A couple of pounds or a few cubic feet of air more or less are not going to make a tremendous difference. You might even be creating unrealistic expectations for yourself by comparing to that diver that stays 20 minutes longer than you. Are your profiles the same up until you head up? Or are you consistently diving deeper for much of the dive? How hard are you working on the dive - swimming around like a madman, or relaxed and just drifting along? For that matter, how are your mask and fins? Do you clear your mask constantly? Are your fins efficient for diving, or better suited to snorkeling?
Lots of variables to consider, don’t over focus on the lead and the air. And some people just naturally use noticeably more or less air than the average diver. (usually related to body type)
I'm checklisting a lot of things that consume air.
- If I have too much weight and it's below my CoG, then I'm "swimming" nose up. This causes drag, and climb and wasted energy/air correcting and so on. So: a) reduce weight and b) move the weight up.
- I've come a long way in "calming down" in the water to conserve energy/air - always room for improvement especially on ...
- I'll be working on buoyancy on my next trip there. I was impressed with the instructor down there who was teaching others on the boat ("Advanced" course) and he gave me some buoyancy tips - I may take a buoyancy course from him while there to improve. It's likely my best potential for improvement.
- Most dives my mask is "just right" and doesn't need to be cleared. Some dives it seems to leak more so I flood it and clear it. Yep - lot's of air.
- My fins are large, plain fins that I've had forever. I could look at new ones, but I'm pretty sure 95% of the problem is me, not equipment.
- Body type: I'm tall and big with a pretty huge lung capacity. That can't be overcome easily - so I have to work the other details.
20 minutes? I'll settle for 10.
Profiles? One guy I'm comparing to was all over - often 10 - 20' or more deeper than the group. One of those guys who doesn't really seem to even need air.