You are right Scuba is not supposed to be competitive but people ARE still competitive. The three areas I see people being competitive tend to be SAC rates, number of dives and depth of dives. I've seen people do 4 dives by surfacing multiple times while the rest of the group did one dive

Too many people have gone to break their depth records

only to turn up in A&I threads.
IMHO the thing abut SAC rates is somewhat understandable. Seems like very few people mind shortening the dive because their buddy is low on air but everyone hates BEING the buddy that is shortening the dive. There really is an easy solution and you have already touched on it. Get a bigger tank! Knowing your SAC should be about being able to put together a safe dive plan based on realistic gas needs.
Sure dealing with things like trim, bouyancy and stress can make a difference. Some people have bigger lung volumes some people just need more air period! It just shouldn't be a big deal beyond planning!
I admit I do things like fill my BCD with exhaled air rather than the power inflator especially at the beginning and end of the dive. I think it is good practice to inflate orally at the surface to establish positive bouyancy so if anything happened that you had to it would be no big deal at all. I tend to try to fill my wetsuit with some water on the surface if I can. That way I don't have to fight the trapped air to descend. Proper weighting means you have to work less as well.
For clarification I have never been a scuba instructor but have taught (thousands of) first aiders and Paramedics for years before retirement. IMHO some of the issues new divers can have is that having told never to hold their breath and to "breathe normally" they get so focused on breathing they wind up breathing more than they need to. Normal breathing does involve a pause.
A simple analogy on breathing.
Homer Simpson is sitting in a control centre monitoring a gauge:
take a breath and O2 sats go up Co2 levels go down... Homer is happy....no activity needed
pause... Co2 sats start going up.... Homer is lazy and no alarms have gone off
Co2 reaches a "trigger" level Homer's alarm goes off and he pushes the Exhale (vent) button
breathe out Co2 Homer pushes the Inhale button
breath in....
Here is one of the best explanations of breathing for new divers ever posted...
Air consumption tips?