I did not know it was that specific post but as a participate in that thread I was near certain a ban was coming, and I dumpsterDiver did too. He had just gotten "unbanned" and I am sure he knew he was treading on thin ice. As much as I enjoyed his participation and pushing the envelope, he knew what he was doing and purposely chose to continue. To me it looked like an intention attack on a fellow SB member and I just can't support that so I would have a hard time justifying another push to get dumpster reinstated. It's an unfortunate loss to the SB community.
I once took an overland trip in Africa for 6 weeks. There were a number of tourists like myself all travelling in a converted Bedford troop truck. We came from a number of different countries and backgrounds.
Among them was the singularly most annoying -- almost stereotypical angry screaming "New Yorker" -- I have ever met in my life. As annoying as she was, she also had several redeeming qualities. Among those, she was a good cook, she was intelligent when she was calm enough to engage in conversation and she an outstanding photographer.
However, she was also SO rude and SO narcissistic and SO disruptive that by 2 weeks in nobody was talking to her anymore and by 3 weeks or so in we decided (well... actually I decided) that she had to go. She was terrorizing the group with her behaviour, including claiming one entire side of the truck to lay down as we were travelling because her "back" was bad.... Her back was not bad. My sister has a bad back and I grew up watching the signs of a bad back. Even though she had paid to be there, so had the rest of us and none of us had signed up for 6 weeks of verbal abuse and bullying by a raving narcissist.
The whole thing escalated when the field we were camping in caught fire in the middle of the night. We did not start the fire but it blew right over our campsite. She was sleeping alone in a tent because nobody else would bunk up with her and when I tried to wake her up to tell her about the fire she literally screamed at me, "F U you Fn Cnt. If you try to wake me up again I'll kill you with my bare hands".
I left her in the tent and reported to the driver of the truck that we were ready to go. He said, "what about that tent" and I told him that the American woman was still inside but she refused to come along. He told me (after thinking about it for a good 15 seconds) that as much as he understood it, we couldn't do that. So I grabbed two other strong guys, we unpegged the tent, rolled her up in it and threw her, tent and all, on the roof of the truck. At least there she could lay down xD. We then left the scene. Needless to say, her attitude did not improve. As we were running from the fire I got in the cab with the driver and told him my thoughts. He contacted his company the next day and said that they would reimburse her ticket. We agreed that we couldn't strand her somewhere where she would be lost or in danger.
So the next major city we came to I called for him to stop as soon as we hit the city limits. I picked her stuff up off the floor and threw it out of the back of the truck. I then told her to get out. Only myself and driver knew I was going to do this, so the initial reaction was shock. She, obviously refused, but I told her in a slow, determined, low volume but very angry tone that she was getting out. She could do so voluntarily or I would make her. I was so angry at that point that the look on my face must of scared her because she got out without another word and we drove away and left her there to find her own way back to Nairobi.
If people nearby had
only seen me kick her out of the truck like that, what do you suppose they were thinking? Probably that I was being mean or brutally unfair to her. Probably NOT that all of the remaining people on the truck were deeply relieved to have their trip saved and the peace restored, and certainly not any of the stuff that lead up to that because they didn't see that stuff at all.
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