We all started out as O/W students

[RJP]

This is almost comical, as none of you know Mercy as I do.

Neither does anyone who meets her for the first time.



But seriously, I don't think anyone is doubting whether or not she knows anything, but rather pointing out that in the real world - right or wrong - folks make assumptions about everyone they meet in every situation. You have the choice of wishing that wasn't true, or understanding the dynamic and doing something to overcome it. One approach will help, the other is just "wishing." (Rolling of eyes is somewhere in the middle strategically, but a lot closer to the "wishing" end of the spectrum.)

 

[Jax]

That's probably just the way his mother raised him.

On a serious note -- that is one of the hardest things for a guy to deal with.

In the military, the lower ranking person opens the door for the higher ranking person. I had a great conversation with an Army Colonel on that subject, and he agreed completely that the military protocol always takes precedence.

Until we left the club, and the door needed to be opened . . .

He said, "Put your hand on that handle, Lieutenant, and I'll break it." and then he proceeded to open the door for me.

Some things are just part of a person's nature!

 

[knowone]

The thing about Sas is she has double 100s and The Guy probably had 85s.


Barking, Jax, is for forums, or the military, not for boats, or for life, or the wrong tree.

 

[TSandM]

Some things are part of our culture.

I've had patients write letters of complaint that they were never seen by a doctor, despite the fact that I clearly introduce myself as "Dr. Flaherty" when I enter the room. Women aren't doctors, everybody knows that.

I had a colleague who began wearing horn-rimmed glasses with clear lenses, after a couple of patients refused to let him operate on them because he was "too young". (He was a fully trained general surgeon who happened to have a boyish appearance.)

People make assumptions based on gender and chronological age, and there is simply no point getting wound up about it. If they are flexible enough, they'll discover your competence by being forced to deal with you. If they are not, they will insist on or seek out other assistance or counsel.

And I'm with Jim -- if every other word is "dude", "like", or worse, I'm going to assume the IQ is probably lower than the decibel level, and behave accordingly

 

[Dr Wu]

Okay, I am a somewhat new diver, but have been working in a dive shop for 2+ years. Why is it that when someone comes into the store or comes on to a dive boat they automatically assume that I don't know anything and often times become demeaning?

Probably because after working in a dive shop for over two years you have managed to accumulate less than 50 dives.

 

[Sas]

The thing about Sas is she has double 100s and The Guy probably had 85s.

Hahaha close! He had 55s and I had 100s.

 

[knowone]

Without being to presumptuous, you could probably elbow bend heavier than those at The Portsea after a dive and I didn't want to insinuate The Guy was that much of a Dick.


But seeing as the thread is slowing, my stopper may be:

Did you hear about the man and the pig?
No matter how much the pig drank he could not become a man.


Shame some of the fairer sex are putting up a challenge.


Manners is good.

 

[MXGratefulDiver]

And I'm with Jim -- if every other word is "dude", "like", or worse, I'm going to assume the IQ is probably lower than the decibel level, and behave accordingly

Ah well ... with my voice that still gives me a lotta latitude ...

... Bob (Grateful Dude)

 

[Sas]

Without being to presumptuous, you could probably elbow bend heavier than those at The Portsea after a dive and I didn't want to insinuate The Guy was that much of a Dick.

Oh I don't think he was rude at all... he was being 'protective' (not the best word but all I can think of) rather than condescending so I did not push the matter.

Sometimes, however, it would be nice to be trusted when you say you can do something But I don't get upset if this does not occur.

 

[The Chairman]

Touche' Pete. I do need to change that pic. I think I have a few more around here now.

Jim,

You missed the point. I loved that picture. You were HAPPY and obviously,having fun. Who really cares about your shirt, except for a small minded person. The outside rarely indicates what's on the inside.