Just returned from Cozumel and PDC where I did my first dives after OW cert. In some ways the experience seemed a bit "off" and I wanted to see what people thought. I'd been reading the forums a bit but I really had no idea of what to expect. <SNIP>
Hi, viz. Yes, some things were definitely off but I'm only going to hit the high points.
1. Since you and your daughter were newly certified divers, the dive op and DM should have gone out of their way to ensure that the two of you were fully comfortable with all aspects of boat and drift diving including weighting, back roll entries, safety stops, etc.
2. The DM should never have given you the SMB. As a new diver you had no business dealing with that and the DM should have known better.
3. But most importantly, you now realize that you are in charge of your dives and you are responsible for your safety and the safety of your daughter.
Dives ops are there to provide you a service and they are working for you. Make sure that you clearly communicate with the dive op what your dive experience is and what you are looking for and what you expect. If they don't give you complete answers that make sense THEN LOOK ELSEWHERE. Once you arrive and begin your dive trip make sure they are performing the way they said they would. If not, stop them and ask questions until you are back on track. If they aren't doing what they said they'd do and you're uncomfortable THEN GO ELSEWHERE. Your 10 year old daughter is not at a point where she can take care of herself in these situations so the responsibility rests with dad. Speak up and keep asking questions until you are BOTH comfortable.
Yes, your safety is your responsibility but a good, reputable dive op that knows you are new divers will go out of their way to make sure you have a safe, enjoyable dive experience. I would guess that you will make many trips to Coz since you live in Houston and Coz is very convenient to you. There are many good dive ops to choose from there and you can research them here on SB. My personal favorite is Blue XTSea and I can assure you that your dive experience would have been much safer and more enjoyable with them.
I envy you getting to dive with your daughter. None of my kids have any interest in diving but I'm hoping that will change someday.
Welcome to diving! Take care and have fun.