Randy43068
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Good way to fan the FLAMES!
yeah, maybe. I'm just in a mood about this kind of horse****
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Good way to fan the FLAMES!
she tells me its my fault cuz I wasnt there to pick her up when she got to shore???? I explained to her that me and my better half always walk out, and up,, I was looking at my own footing because of the rocky shore. I did not expect her to crawl out of the lake tho, thought she was right behind me.
Shouldnt it be a requirement to be able to support your own gear? I dont mind helping out, donning and doffing the bc and what not, but you should be able to support it?
yeah, maybe. I'm just in a mood about this kind of horse****
C'mon Randy, this is life. If something can be bitched about, it shall be bitched about. If camps can be chosen and divisive lines drawn that promote mob mentality and a loss of individuality, all the better. That's progress, right?
Because this is a discussion board and most of us come here to discuss things. Opposing view points on topics can often bring better understandings to discussions if it can be done civilly.
Feel free to disagree with what I just said.
Seriously doubt she would have let you. Women develope this instinct early on in diving.
That said, of course anybody struggling to get out of the water should be helped.
You're both right. She did the right thing by directly (I think) telling you what her expectation is. You did the right thing by explaining that this isn't the usual expection
Absolutely.
It's a huge pet peeve (to put it mildly) of mine when I'm at the beach and see a group of divers hanging out talking about the dive while one of them is still struggling to get out of the water. On three separate occasions I've walked over and aided an exhausted (and probably over weighted) diver with a tricky steep beach exit while their "buddies" stood by oblivious.
Problem being that this discourse took place AFTER the dive
This is all about expectations.
You think she should be able to man-handle her gear
She thinks you're a boob for not helping her
You're both right. She did the right thing by directly (I think) telling you what her expectation is. You did the right thing by explaining that this isn't the usual expection.....
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and then communication broke down.
What I would suggest is that on your side *you* remain open to the idea that not every buddy is your S.O. and some of your buddies will expect and need other things from you than your usual buddy .... your buddy's problem is that she only made her expectations clear *after* she needed your help..... I'm sure she knew from the get-go that she was going to need your help.
All this comes back to the age-old principle that talking about expectations *before* something happens is better than talking about them *after* something happens.
R..
P.S. If I thought every buddy needed from me exactly what my usual buddy expects from me then then
-1- I would expect every buddy to be highly experienced, highly self sufficient, confident and in control and
-2- I would expect every buddy to want beer after the dive... LOL
Something to think about. Everyone is different.
R..
So yesterday, went diving with a couple people,, my better half couldnt go because she was gettin her hair fixed up to see how it will look for the wedding. Anyhow, I had a new dive buddy, she put her bc and everything on sitting down, then couldnt stand up.. well, we got her to the water, the dive went O.K. we didnt have any problems, till we started walking out of the lake at the end of the dive. Its very rocky there,, we get to about 3 feet of water, I take my mask off,walk out and up to my truck with my gear on to doff it. Its easier in my opinion to leave it on my back to carry it up. Anyhow, when I get to the truck, the lady is trying to crawl out of the lake,,,she cant support the weight of her equipment I guess, well, in the process of trying to exit this way, she loses a fin. I go down to help her look for it, she tells me its my fault cuz I wasnt there to pick her up when she got to shore???? I self explained to her that me and my better half always walk out, and up,, I was looking at my own footing because of the rocky shore. I did not expect her to crawl out of the lake tho, thought she was right behind me.
Shouldnt it be a requirement to be able to support your own gear? I dont mind helping out, donning and doffing the bc and what not, but you should be able to support it?
Dammit!!! No wonder those hot scuba babes never called me back even though I schlepped their gears to their cars.