ClayJar:It was not an insult. You have neither the experience nor the dive education to have come to an understanding that there are times when a diver can refuse to help and be justified in doing so. It's a rather cynical view of things, and not having considered that decision means you're still innocent of having made it. With a few exceptions (people like DSD and TSandM, for example, with whom I'll never compare in some ways), most people would likely reach a limit as to how much risk of their life they'd take to try to save someone.
If you want to reference only the actual situtation in the article (a diver in a group, apparently nowhere near panic(?), who comes to you for air), sure, I'll donate an alternate (while being prepared to clobber the guy if he tries to bolt). Still, isn't that kinda missing the entire *point* of the article, which is to think about what you'd do, both by considering the hypothetical diver who won't/can't help you as well as considering whether *you* would/could help were you approached.
I've tried to reply with what insight I found through Rescue. It forced me to think about those hypothetical situations from both sides, and it certainly broadened my imagination. I'd hoped that my being open about one easily understood reason someone *could* be forced to choose between themselves and a rescue attempt would provide context by which you could more easily see that the black and white of always trying to help everyone is not nearly so certain the more you learn.
As I've said (probably belaboring the point), I openly admire educated, experienced people who can put a diver in peril before their own safety in every situation. They know the risks, and they choose to put the safety of others before their own safety, but I admire them so much because they are the few. It's easy to say "I'd always help, and to not help is murder!" if you're unspoiled by knowledge and experience. To know full well the mortal peril you may face and still be able to say, "I'd always help, even though I may not require that of others." is certainly another concept, altogether.
I'm not quit sure you took away from the rescue course what you should have. Giving an air source to an OOA diver is a good way to help keep them avoid panic. If you want to make them panic for sure...just don't give them air and watch them squirm.
If they are already in full blown panic, you need to control the situation. That may mean keeping your distance for a time, which, isn't the same as abondoning somone in trouble.