I recommend all women give the backplate/wings style a try before writing them off as being to utilitarian or whatnot.
They make short backplates that are infinately more comfortable than long ones if you don't have a long torso.
If you are a really small woman, there is NO way that a jacket BCD will ever "snug up" on you. You will always have some issues with tank slop. The harness totally adjustable. You can even get them with buckles and things.
but in addition to that, here is my take... Many women are smaller torso'd then men, so we have less room for stuff up there. Also some of us have boobs in the way. SO, it makes sense that a BCD with a minimum of fabric in front will actually fit us better and be less cumbersome than any of the jacket style and most of the "back inflate" bcd's.
You just don't need all those pockets on the BCD, they are added bulk and drag... If you need places to put stuff, pockets on your wetsuit, drysuit or X-shorts will be MUCH more accessible (and you can put shock cord in them to teather things to) and comfortable in my opinion.
There is also no need for 15 different D-rings on the front. If you put the D-rings in the right place, you can clip like 15 things per d-ring with no problem
(okay, maybe i'm exagerating a little, but really.. on one D-ring I can clip my long hose second, my 18w HID head, a scout, my camera, and generally anything else anyone tosses at me.. If we are talking christmas tree divers, take this into consideration, I have 3 working D rings on my kit (both shoulders and left waist) and can drag around multiple stages, scooters, deco bottles, reels, etc...
I'm not big and strong by any means... In fact I'm kinda whimpy... BP&W are for ALL divers