It is all about matching expectations...
First, one has to remember any dive op gets plenty of divers who boast to be Cousteau's incarnation or showing off experience better than Poseidon himself. Then they hit the water and show the poorest diving skills. The diving operator and/or its dm/guides/instructors in most cases cannot know your skills beforehand. So, one has to earn their trust- now the operator is the "customer" and you need to sell him your skills, so he can trust you and buy your "merchandise" (the wanting to dive without group policy enforcement, yes?)- like you'd normally do with any customer.
So first, you try to dive with operators that already know you. But since one can never know whether he is going back to the same place again, you behave like you WOULD. You build and establish a good relationship, based on trust and in our case- practicing good scuba skills.
Upon booking, I let know the operator about my wife and mine own diving skills something like we are both experienced instructors that really like to take our time, taking photos and that we prefer no hassling. But as I said, I know he cannot really know who and what we are, so I don't expect much at this stage.
When we arrive, we introduce ourselves, speak with the guide. We repeat the bla bla. Suppose it's a liveaboard, we actually want the guide to be relieved and have to focus his attention on a smaller group, maybe with less experienced divers, so in the end it will be better for him. You don't tell him that- he will notice by himself after the first dive, or actually before- one can learn a lot about a diver from watching how he arranges his gear (doesn't matter what shiny reg brand or sophisticated computer).
So you arrange the gear with confidence, make an exemplary check dive with the rest of the group. Let him and group see that you're a different quality of diver- and if you really are- you won't.be hassled.
Do not show off, don't boast between dives, just be a professional diver.
Then in briefing for next dive you listen carefully and learn the dive site. After briefing, you grab the guide and brief him about your dive.... You let him know that you are considerate, and if conditions allow you'll take your time. If the boat must lift anchor, or the rendezvous with zodiac is problematic etc- you keep in pace with the group. Remember- you want him to know you're making his job easier, so some dives won't be more than 60 minutes, but many are going to be 90 (my preferred dive time) or more...
You dive professionally, no bumping to depths the guide isn't comfortable, no sucking tasks dry, for example. You know the site better than group because you did your home work between dives, always checking also what's next so you can plan your "extended" dive, or maybe arrange dropping with first group, being picked up with the last, and so on.
If it's a drift dive with rough seas and difficult pick up, it's okay to keep with the group, otherwise it makes times harder for guide and rubber boat drivers.
Anyway, if you are okay then you'll get the freedom to dive it your way. And, if that indeed happened, don't forget to tip generously- remember- you never know maybe next year you'll be coming back..Then you'll be received with open arms, and nobody will question you about group policy...
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