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[dvr4lyf]

Hello all- looking for some advice.
My fience and I have been with each other for 8 yrs and I'm anxious to dive with her.
She is a little timid however, about the idea. Last year we vacationed in Florida in Pampano Beach and I did some diving while she snorkeled. She almost signed up for a "dive today" class, but decided against it. She loves the water, has no fear of the ocean or anything like that. As a matter of fact we both had a great time!!!
Here's the problem, I cant talk her into signing up??!! I asked her if i could give her the class as a present for the holidays and she said she would prefer other things.
I know she shares the passion with me 'cause she's always steeling my Sport Diver issues. I've tried to ask her all sorts of questions surrounding the issue as to why she wont take the first step, all I seem to get is she cant afford to buy her own equipment, I guess she wants what Daddy has. I told her I'd help wherever I could but still here we are.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated!!!

I know once she takes the first step she'll be hooked!!!
Thanks in advance!!!
Safe diving!! - Joe

 

[Wayward Son]

Don't push it. If she's not ready, she's not ready.

 

[Kevfin]

Obviously, something is going on in her mind that is preventing her from taking the first step. She may not feel comfortable telling you at this point.

Women can be secretive. Even though you have been married eight years, it takes a lifetime to get to know some women. Heck, the same goes for us guys too.

I agree, you can’t really push her into it. Maybe a gentle nudge, like an intro to scuba class at a local dive shop. You might even want to talk to the folks at your LDS and see if they would let her try it for free. Take her with you to the shop too… have her ask questions and feel comfortable with the people before she takes the plunge.

You could even ask her to go talk to the people at the LDS with no obligation to try anything… no pressure. Let her ask questions and overcome any issues she may have.

Good Luck!

 

[spectrum]

Don't push it as said, she's not ready.

3 things to carefully consider trying though...

First, more snorkeling.

Second, make sure she is aware that she can do a discover dive locally. In a pool, under controlled conditions at her own pace, in and out no strings attached.

Third, Whatever you don't let her try to learn in vacation / crash session situation.

Pete

 

[Gary D.]

The worst possible thing you can do is push her into it or have her bend to the peer pressure.

Just keep diving and snorkeling as you are but keep your trap shut about getting her to dive. When she is ready she will be ready and do it, but not before then.

My wife wasn’t interested in diving for over our first 20 years together. In 92 she decided she wanted to try. It created a diving monster but she did it on her own and is a good diver with MS.

Push your girlfriend to hard she might bend and get trained only to become a statistic later down the road. Or she may never try it at all. The choice needs to be hers, not yours.

Zip it and enjoy your time together.

Gary D.

 

[RumBum]

Hello all- looking for some advice.
My fience and I have been with each other for 8 yrs ..... she cant afford to buy her own equipment .... I told her I'd help wherever I could but still here we are.

None of my business, but here's a female point of view... maybe she would rather you bought her a honeymoon, afterwards she might consider diving more seriously. We women tend to hold out on giving stuff you want until we get what we want.:05:

 

[HowardE]

Maybe you should buy her a honeymoon to someplace where you can get in some great diving. Many places come to mind... Then tell her how great it will be to dive together on your honeymoon (when you're not locked in the hotel room)

 

[TheRedHead]

Maybe she doesn't really want all that equipment. I resisted diving for a long time when I loved snorkeling. What got me hooked was SNUBA. No equipment to deal with. You could do SNUBA together and there is very little training and all of that is done on the boat.

 

[BigWhiteSquare]

Trade her off for someone that does dive! If she's not willing to share your hobby now she certainly isn't going to turn into little Mrs. cooperative after that honeymoon idea that was suggested. Run brother, run like the wind!


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[TSandM]

It took my husband 17 years to talk me into learning to dive. I loved (and still love) swimming in the ocean (where it's WARM) and snorkelling, but diving was something I thought I could take or leave.

Then I learned how.

The rest is history.

She'll learn when she wants to. Take her places where she snorkels and sees you disappearing under the water where you can FOLLOW all those gorgeous fish.