I don't think you need much in the way of a depression on that washer. If you are getting a seal, that is all that matters.
I've uploaded the photos I took last evening for you to see. This is what the original looked like, along with the stem valve parts. I have photos of the single hose version of the original Calypso regulator, and a second regulator that I have put together with both the original (primary, on the long hose) and the second generation Calypso second stage (as my backup--it breaths well too, but is a wetter breathing regulator). If you'll look at the regulator with four hoses, it has a Sportsways splitter on it, and a very old SPG. This SPG also has the washer on it.
Let's talk about that stem gauge of a moment--it was put on the regulator as a very "quick and dirty" way of seeing whether a tank had air in it. You could roughly tell whether it was full, half full, or a quarter full. My stem gauge is off, and when it is full the stem gauge reads about 3/4 full. Why have one? Well, it allowed a diver to start with a "full" tank, and we were using a J-valve at the time--that was all we needed to dive our rivers and lakes, and the ocean too. I have one closeup photo of the stem gauge with the stem out (on the scuba tank and pressurized). This was before the time when divers were, on a regular basis, cave diving or penetrating wrecks, etc. One part I was unable to show was the O-ring in the top of the stem gauge; I think I saw it, and lubricated it, but was not able to get it out. Since it is sealing, I'm pretty sure it is there right in the top--it looks like one, and acts like one, but I did not pull it out.
Duckbill, I don't think a copper washer would be needed, as he is already getting a seal, and not much of a depression in necessary. Besides, there would then be some corrosion potential simply because of the dissimilar metals.
SeaRat