What does she think is going to happen? It will spontaneously explode sittin in your basement? In NH? I’ve got several sitting full in my garage in Florida. It’s been ridiculously hot this year, and my garage is not under air. The oldest of those tanks is from the mid to late 90s.
There have not been very many tanks that just exploded. Ever. There were a few old (1988 and earlier) AL tanks that burst. I think in all those cases, the tank was in the process of being filled. I think there’s been a case in the past year with a spontaneous explosion, but that was due to an incorrect valve being installed. Threads on the valve didn’t match those on the tank.
A couple suggestions. Read up on Hydrostatic testing. Every five years your tank needs to undergo this test. It is subject to significantly more pressure during this test than it will ever be filled with.
And watch this Mythbusters clip. Despite trying to make the tank explode, they were unsuccessful. Yes, the tank did propel itself inside the container, but it didn’t obliterate the shark or destroy the container.
Also, read up on the burst disks in tank valves. They are designed to be the weak spot in most instances. Before the tank sees a pressure that would result in a catastrophic explosion, the burst disk will give to release pressure in a safe manner.
But, this is all logical arguments. Which may or may not make a difference in your case.