devolution365
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A mailing list I'm on is discussing a recent "near miss" involving a woman who was apparently coaxed into diving by her husband despite her tendency to panic underwater. The consensus of some members of this mailing list seems to be that in many cases when spouses dive together, one of the pair is really into diving and the other is either pressured the other to join the sport or they choose to do it "for their spouse".
Now, many of the participants on this list are either instructors or DM's and according to them, they run into this problem alot. What surprised me, though, is that a few of them have said that they have split up husband and wife buddies in order to 'make them better, more independent divers' -or just out of fear that one is too dependant on the other/being pressured, etc. One member in particular seemed to be saying that he does this on a regular basis...
My argument against their position is a bit skewed, I know, because I personally dive with my spouse as my buddy. There was no pressure involved with us, however -I was certified before we met and it was his choice (recently) to get certified after a few snorkeling trips we took together. We both taking diving seriously (but have a lot of fun doing it), and we take full responsibility for being good buddies to each other. In fact, I believe that we dive safer as a pair because we can more easily recognize each other underwater, we know each others signals, we know we can freely give each other advice after the dive, etc. Plus, we've made mistakes together in the past and learned from them... I can't imagine being split up on a dive boat and having to dive with a total stranger who may or may not take the sport (and the concept of being a "good buddy") as seriously as I do.
So... My questions:
A.) Do you think that generally spouses make bad buddies?
B.) Have you ever been on a boat and seen spouses split up by the DM to form separate buddy pairs?
C.) Do you think DM's should split up spouses? -what if it's obvious that they're overly dependant on one another?
Just wondering...
Now, many of the participants on this list are either instructors or DM's and according to them, they run into this problem alot. What surprised me, though, is that a few of them have said that they have split up husband and wife buddies in order to 'make them better, more independent divers' -or just out of fear that one is too dependant on the other/being pressured, etc. One member in particular seemed to be saying that he does this on a regular basis...
My argument against their position is a bit skewed, I know, because I personally dive with my spouse as my buddy. There was no pressure involved with us, however -I was certified before we met and it was his choice (recently) to get certified after a few snorkeling trips we took together. We both taking diving seriously (but have a lot of fun doing it), and we take full responsibility for being good buddies to each other. In fact, I believe that we dive safer as a pair because we can more easily recognize each other underwater, we know each others signals, we know we can freely give each other advice after the dive, etc. Plus, we've made mistakes together in the past and learned from them... I can't imagine being split up on a dive boat and having to dive with a total stranger who may or may not take the sport (and the concept of being a "good buddy") as seriously as I do.
So... My questions:
A.) Do you think that generally spouses make bad buddies?
B.) Have you ever been on a boat and seen spouses split up by the DM to form separate buddy pairs?
C.) Do you think DM's should split up spouses? -what if it's obvious that they're overly dependant on one another?
Just wondering...