A few thoughts...
1. Nitrile/buna N o-rings have been used in aviaton O2 and medical applications for decades along with silicone based lubricants.
2. The valves in those applications are generally designed for O2 service, come up to pressure slowly and have well designed flow paths with the sharp edges, sharp bends and dead ends basically engineered out of them to avoid heating that could provide a potential ignition source.
3. Not much of number 2 applies to scuba valves - they are in most cases far less than ideal for O2 service.
4. O2 clean is relative. In terms of nitrile versus EPDM versus viton o-rings, the difference is not that some are fire proof, as all of them will burn, the difference is just that the ignition temperature is higher by a couple hundred degrees in basically that order. In a 100% O2 environment and with a high enough temperature to start the fire, anything will burn - including the steel or aluminum tank walls. Even if perfetly clean, fuel still exists and will soon build up as "clean" gasses will still carry some traces of hydrocarbon contaminants. So you can clean and asemble it in a clean room, with suitable materials and non-hydrocarbon based lubes, but what is "clean" today probably won't be after 6 months of regular fills. By then you are just hoping for clean enough.
5. Regardless of how clean it is, you still want to strive to prevent potential ignition sources. Open the valve slowly with the purge slightly depressed.
6. On one side of the argument you have an operational history where rubber o-rings and silicone lubes have done fine with mixes under 40%. On the other side, you have most agencies except NOAA that require O2 clean proceduires for anything in contact with mixes over anythwere from 23-25% O2 - and an army of lawyers who will argue that it is prudent to do so. So if the science doesn't make people nervous, ambulance chasing lawyers will.
Personally, I clean my own tanks and valves - and I pay very careful attention to the valve, as the potential fuel in the valve is going to be more problematic in the tank as there are far fewer sources of ignition in the tank.
But if I also do my own O2 cleaning and might look at it differently if I had to pay a shop to clean 4 sets of doubles, 4 deco bottles and 4 stage bottles every year.