But for someone to say they never had a good insta-buddy strikes me as absurd.
If you have a string of bad personal or professional or diving relationships, maybe it's time to consider the one constant factor: you.
You are absolutely correct! Every time I think about these dives, I get into some serious introspection because in most cases, I could have done a better job.
1) Girl from out of town had a head cold and didn't mention it. Trying to ascend from 40' she got intense pain. We couldn't stay down forever... I could have asked about her history but I'm pretty shy and don't usually spend a lot of time talking to people, especially girls. I give myself a pass on this one.
2) Guy from out of town and we're diving to 60' or so. Maybe more, I don't recall. Anyway, our square profile is up and I'm trying to get him to surface. He wants to continue the dive. So I surfaced and watched until he came up. We had 2 rules on the boat: square profiles in compliance with the tables (NAUI, 1987) and come up with 500 psi. Otherwise you don't need to come back. I give myself a pass on this one also. He was from out of town so the rules didn't matter.
3) Diving at the Casino at Catalina, my buddy and I are going to make a 90' dive at the buoy. As we're swimming out, another couple ask if they can join us for the dive. Here's where I messed up: I agreed. His wife couldn't make the dive but agreed to hang at the buoy until we got back. So, we did our short dive and when we surfaced, she was gone. We searched and then went back to the entry point (this is long before steps were installed). There she was - still alive.
What was I thinking! Why would I have ever thought it could be a good idea to help a new diver make a deep dive? This was a huge mistake and it's all mine!
4) Diving from a boat at Lover's Point, we're in about 60' of water. I got paired up with a new diver and after a false start, we decided to swim around a rock formation. We got to the far side (about 10 minutes) and he was just about out of air. So we surfaced and had to crawl over the kelp to get back to the boat. He was having a terrible time with his weight belt falling off and getting tangled in the kelp. My crawl wasn't splendid either!
Again, maybe we should have done a little air sharing and stayed on the bottom through most of the kelp bed. My fault again! I honestly didn't know somebody could use that much air. But I was the more experienced diver so it was my responsibility. A better plan would have been to just circle below the boat. I just didn't have enough experience to know it would turn out this way.
5) Diving in the channel near Pulau Dayang (Malaysia), I got paired with a fellow who liked to mount his regulator upside down with the valve handle on the left. No problem, I wasn't going to check his valve and I certainly wouldn't let him touch mine.
However, another diver, not part of our buddy pair, decided to reach OVER the tank and turn the valve - OFF. When my buddy jumped in, he didn't have air to breath and his BC wasn't inflated very much. He was sinking and drifting away in the current. Not a pretty sight. So, I jumped in after him and got him squared away. By this time we are probably 100 yards away from the boat in high current. We get back to the boat and some of our air is gone. We make the 100' dive to the fighter jet but we can't stay long.
It is not my practice to touch anyone's gear and I don't want them to touch mine. But seeing the other diver reaching over the tank should have set off alarms. It didn't... My fault!
6) Diving off the coast of Malaysia: I got paired up with a nice you woman and we dove on a reef about 20 miles from shore. It was a wonderful dive and I sometimes look at the log book entry. I had forgotten this dive when I posted earlier. It was terrific.
Sometimes I only remember the bad things. They serve as object lessons. And the lesson is that I'm not much of a dive buddy and I really don't want to dive with strangers.
Richard