The third first stage is not "extreme": it is useful when you add a pony or deco tank.I agree with nearly all of this, Just not that a need for 3 first stages is “extreme”.
However, many people do deco without an additional tank. An additional deco tank is useful only if contains highly-enriched nitrox, or even pure oxygen, which indeed are just for "very advanced" tech diving.
In my life I did a lot of deco simply using the air contained in the main twins. Here in Italy, most tech divers use a 15+15 liters twin, at 232 bars, which provides an enormous amount of air. There is really no need to use a third additional cylinder for deco, if you do not like (as me) to use accelerated deco with high oxygen PP.
With such a setup you can go down to around 60 meters maximum, with a reasonably long bottom time, and still you will have plenty of air for your long deco stops.
Beyond this are trimix and pure oxygen deco, which for me is really "too advanced" tech diving for a not-professional diver.
Regarding the usage of high oxygen pp for deco, I see that many favour this approach. But I did never consider it to be safe. Shortening the deco time thanks to high PP of oxygen has some inherent risks, but we would be off topic discussing them here.
To the OP I again recommend to proceed slowly, one step after the other. Just start with "light tech", which for me is the safest way of diving: limit the depth to 30-40 m maximum (so no big risk of narcosis), use an ample tank filled with air (usually a 15 liters single, 232 bars, is enough), you can do with just a single first stage in DIN attachment (or 2 first stages with yoke), and plan the bottom time to be "just beyond" NDL.
Most agencies recommend to plan within NDL, but at any minimum problem, if something bad happens, you end exceeding the NDL. And you are not ready, nor equipped for it.
In my opinion, it is safer to program the dive just beyond NDL, so you know that you must be prepared and equipped for a true deco stop. If for any chance you must end the dive earlier than planned, then you will be within NDL and you can surface directly. If everything goes as planned, you will make a true deco stop of just 5-6 minutes, corresponding more or less to the additional time you have got at bottom beyond the NDL.
Such a dive profile is now considered "tech", whilst 40 years ago it was considered fully recreational. And I always considered it safer than a diving profile just within NDL rec limits.
For this minimal tech level you do not need to spend a lot of money expanding your equipment, you can do that just purchasing the DIN converter, or a second first stage.
But of course it all depends what your "tech" buddies will want to do...