BettyRubble
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No . . and I'm in denial. It's only July right?
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BettyRubble
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Way too commercialized but I'm a pentecostal Bible thumper so my view may be a bit conservative 
So when do you think they'll put out the valentines stuff -- I figure Black Friday . . .
So when do you think they'll put out the valentines stuff -- I figure Black Friday . . .
I am not sure of much anymore. I lived in the Philippines where Christmas decorations start in September. And here in China, western holidays take on a different slant, always commercial. I am not sure where Valentines fits in that whole scheme.
Is Valentines really as important as say an anniversary? (I ask because I forgot V Day once and didn't like the reception )
Is Valentines really as important as say an anniversary? (I ask because I forgot V Day once and didn't like the reception
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Scuba Do
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Dude:
Anniversaries and birthdays are 10s, in part because they are personal. Valentines Day is about a 7, in part because it is not personal - everyone is celebrating it. So, even if you are batting at a 5 (and women expect way better than that), you lose. Explaining it is only a 7 does not absolve you; in fact, it makes your mistake far more serious. Secret to a happy marriage? Always say you are sorry, even when you are not, and even when you have no idea what your wife thinks you have done wrong.
Would you rather be right or happy?
Anniversaries and birthdays are 10s, in part because they are personal. Valentines Day is about a 7, in part because it is not personal - everyone is celebrating it. So, even if you are batting at a 5 (and women expect way better than that), you lose. Explaining it is only a 7 does not absolve you; in fact, it makes your mistake far more serious. Secret to a happy marriage? Always say you are sorry, even when you are not, and even when you have no idea what your wife thinks you have done wrong.
Would you rather be right or happy?
BettyRubble
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I'd rather be content . . the space between right and happy or sad and happy . . . that place where it no longer matters if things will get better nor if they will get worse, where you live in the moment of accepting that where life is right now is ok.
Yeah, I really would love to be content.
So why am I never content?
Yeah, I really would love to be content.
So why am I never content?
(I assume the 'I' in this question is meant more generally)
As Goethe says in Faust, the key to happiness and humanity is in the "Strebung" (the striving) we endeavor, and this is how he (and God essentially) trump the devil and break what he considers an unbreakable pact.
I was deeply affected by this book when I first read it because when I struggled through its twisted German prose I was at a time when I was striving to make a better life for myself without knowing exactly what that was going to mean in the end.
The problem with Strebung is that it oftentimes gets in the way of contentment or in a sense the smelling of the roses times we have in life that can easily get away if we are not careful. I think I need both of these things to find any meaningful contentment, but I understand that the balance between the two is hard to tether when they are at competing odds.
Is the axiom true that one stops living the day one is truly content?
As Goethe says in Faust, the key to happiness and humanity is in the "Strebung" (the striving) we endeavor, and this is how he (and God essentially) trump the devil and break what he considers an unbreakable pact.
I was deeply affected by this book when I first read it because when I struggled through its twisted German prose I was at a time when I was striving to make a better life for myself without knowing exactly what that was going to mean in the end.
The problem with Strebung is that it oftentimes gets in the way of contentment or in a sense the smelling of the roses times we have in life that can easily get away if we are not careful. I think I need both of these things to find any meaningful contentment, but I understand that the balance between the two is hard to tether when they are at competing odds.
Is the axiom true that one stops living the day one is truly content?
Scuba Do
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No. What is your next question?
Scuba Do
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Several reasons, among the many: big business, a growing and anti-Christian bias, laziness. I always try to keep the meaning in focus (give at least one gift each to my wife and kids that is purely about the real meaning of Christmas, read the story of the birth of Christ to the family, include the religious carols with "Grandma Got Run Over By a Reindeer," etc.)
What do you do to remember the real meaning of Christmas?
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