FWIW, here's what I would suggest considering what we know about the OP from this thread, since he has decided to go with a pony bottle (not sure I agree with that but who am I to say):
1. 40cuf - if you do deco dives later it will still be good for that, but it's not too big to be a pain to carry above or under water
2. Slung - more versatile
3. Keep your secondary on your backgas - not sure why you would do anything else
4. SPG on hose - easier to read, more versatile
5. Every dive - can't hurt, will help
6. Air - no reason to use EAN
7. Depends on what options are avilable, but I wouldn't suck fill out of my back tank unless there was no other option - pony's a backup not primary supply in this instance