Hi guys! I am new to this site and also new to diving.
Hello Danielle
I have never been a fan of water. I can swim, and don't mind jumping in water, or doing a bit of snorkelling, but the idea of breathing underwater and trusting gear is a bit freaky for me.
SCUBA diving isn't for everyone. My wife can swim, sort of, but can't stand the sensation of water in her ears. She doesn't dive. While in some ways I wish diving could be a shared experience for us, I realize it would be unwise for her to pursue it.
Anyhow, as I'm heading with my boyfriend to Thailand next month, we both thought it would be fun to get certified in open water. So we signed up and since then I have been taking my Padi at a dive center.
If I were an advice columnist for a major national newspaper, I'd put in two paragraphs here about making sure you're being true to yourself and making your own decisions rather than being led in directions you don't want to go for the sake of the relationship. If this is something you really want, great. If you're doing it for the sake of the relationship, well, don't.
I can back two days later and trained with another instructor who was much more paitient and I felt very comfortable with him.
Some instructors are better than others. Some instructors who are good overall may be wrong for you. On the other hand, the first steps are the hardest -- day 2 is easier than day 1.
On the day of the open water...current...only 3ft of visibility
I'm not an instructor, but I would consider those conditions marginal for instruction.
I felt alittle annoyed though afterwards that my instructor didn't sit with me to talk about what went wrong or what happened. It just seemed like he just said no don't come tomorrow, you can try in fujeriah as its a better dive spot or try next week. But he didn't really do anything to make me fee better. I guess what I needed from him was a bit of reassurance.
There are instructors who are empathetic and patient. In my experience, they are the exception rather than the rule. (fwiw this is not a problem that is limited to scuba instruction)
Now I just feel like he doesn't want to teach me and that maybe this sport isn't for me. Am I destined to never be good at scuba? I was really looking forward to some beautiful diving in koh Tao and seeing all the beauty below! Any information or advice super appreciated.
I do have some advice for you.
1) Make sure this is something that you really want to do. One question to ponder, that may help you decide, is whether you would still want to do it if it were not something your boyfriend was involved in. If you want to it, great, if not, that's great too, either way, be who you are
2) Switch instructors. Explain that the instructional relationship wasn't working out and you need someone who is patient and supportive. If necessary, switch shops.
3) Make it clear to your new instructor that you don't want to go out and dive in crap conditions. You may have to compromise on scheduling. You may have to pay more. It's worth it.
One of the things about diving is that it is weather sensitive. When the conditions are crap it isn't fun, better to do something else that day.