The bands impact the alignment of the tanks as you tighten them. Ideally, the tanks are parallel to each other with the centers aligned so that the manifold is not stressed. as you tighten the bands, you spin the isolator valve/crossbar one way or the other to ensure it continues to freefly spin - indicating the crossbar is properly separating the valves and is not stressed in tension or compresson.
So in effect, adjust the cossbar lenght initially to be in the ball park, then turn it one way or the other ensure it remains in a range where it will freely turn one direction or the other as you tighten the bands equally - and in the process keeping the tanks parrallel.
The actual function of the bands is two fold: 1. provide an attachment point/interface between tanks and backplate and 2. carry the load of the tanks and ensure they remain properly aligned and parallel to each other, preventing any significant loads from being carried by the manifold.
If care is not taken in establishing and maintaining the correct lenght on the crossbar, the bending loads that will be imposed on it can be immense as the bands are tightened on tanks that are not parallel due to improper crossbar lenght. That improper loading can lead to failure of the manifold.
A few generic tips:
Correct bolt lenght is usually a function of the depth of the channel in the backplate. Some plates are flatter than others and end up needing longer bolts.
With fully threaded bolts it is often easier to clamp the first section of band betwene the head of the bolt and a jam nut. That allows you to tighten the second nut on the outside of the bands from one side only.
Set the centers at 11" exactly. A plate with two round holes spaced 11" apart works well as a guide. Many plates have a slot in the lower half of the plate that allows the bolt centers to be off a half inch or so, but that can be problematic if you switch plates or loan your tanks to someone else. Loosening and moving the bands later (and usually on full tanks) can result in the manifold being stressed if the alignment of the tanks changes.
Getting both ends of the crossbar to start on the same turn can be a challenge. If the turning it backwards tip does not work, start one side 1/2 to 1 turn only. Then you only have to focus on starting one side instead of both. In most cases the 1/2 to 1 turn difference in threads on the left and right sides won't make any difference unless the band centers are unusually narrow.