Good advice, but you have me puzzled... weather?
Rain mostly, and heat. Much more rain on the Windward side, Kaneohe, etc. but quite a bit cooler. Air conditioning is expensive as hell to run, so depending on heat tolerance, picking a cooler area can be a good thing. But with cool comes rain, and possibly mold issues that I am told some are sensitive to, and riding a Harley or having the top down when rain hits could be interesting.
I will be working on Hickam AFB but do NOT want to live in Honolulu proper.
You will have a decent spread of areas to choose from with good access to Hickam. Leeward side: Makakilo/Kapolei, central: Mililani, or even over in Kaneohe/Kailua with a quick commute over H3. All avoid Honolulu.
If you can adjust your work day to get in early and leave early, you can avoid the traffic crunch. Am told the traffic to and from the Leeward side is grim during usual commute times. I live out on the southeast side and have to commute through Honolulu to Ford Island. Not bad traffic if I hit the road no later than 0545, and head home before 1430. About 24 miles, takes 35-40 min. coming in, 45-50 min. going home.
Here in Colorado, a 25-30 minute commute is a short one, so hopefully we can keep it to that or less.
Good luck with that. Some spend 1.5 hours creeping through traffic each way if stuck with normal working hours. I made the mistake of heading in for a normal 0800 first day, and spent almost 2 hours creeping along. Last time I did that...........
Am sure other locals can give their perspective, I have only been here a bit over three years.
Edit: the areas I mention are about as far out as you want to go, after that the roads drop from multi-lane to two lane mostly and can get very clogged. My experience anyway, ask anyone heading to the North Shore on a weekend..............