yeah, someone tell me the real name of the "porno push" - where I would have laid on my back, put my feet on my DB's shoulders, and they push me? or do they pull me? See... that's what you get when you learn from an instructor that is chumming the water each morning due to lots of Thai whiskey the night before. lol. (well, not really funny...)
While I don't think anyone should really be telling me I was not "ready to be a diver" (or shouldn't be) I do agree with the thought that I may have an AOW card, but that does not make an advanced diver. I didn't have this anxiety the 1st 2 years I dove. I didn't have a kid, either. I've done some pretty serious dives in Sipidan, and have 50 dives under my belt (all in oceans... not pond stuff, etc.) but all that says is that nothing went wrong and I was lucky. I can't believe some of the stuff I did when I look through my log book. Makes me even more grateful that this cayman incident was the worst that happened!
I have some verbage for instructors, take it or leave it... when you meet your divers for the 1st time, and they "announce" something, what are they REALLY saying? Are they looking to put some trust in you? Why you, why not themselves? And is that legit and warranted? Like when I said I had never done swim throughs and caves... I don't care if Discover Scuba folks dive that area (thanks for that BTW, nice) SOMEONE JUST TOLD YOU THEY WERE GREEN AT SOMETHING.
Ask them more about it. Talk it out. I would never take 10 minutes to explain my life story to a DM as we suit up, but I have mentioned my anxiety in the past and for the most part it went ignored. I'll tell ya... one of these days a DM is going to get a REALLY nervous twit that can't control themselves, and you've got yourself a sprinter at 80ft down! To me, a really good DM is someone who has a decent sense of who they are diving with.
How many of you dive with someone as your buddy when you only know their name? (I would hope, not many)
Anywho... I ramble... sorry...
(ps - I did talk to the shop, and just shared my concerns with no fingers pointed. They responded back quickly, and appropriately.)