When I swim laps at the pool I am very good at the frog kick, put a pair of fins on me and it goes out the window. Any suggestions?
Do you know how to breast stroke? It's the exact same thing.
When swimming breast-stroke laps the "frog kick" is a leg kick and what your feet are doing is almost immaterial. In diving it's all about the ankles - pointing your feet the right way, having the blades of the fins in the proper plane, and rotating the ankles properly.
As Lynn suggests, the easiest, surest way to learn it is to have someone behind you moving your feet/ankles/legs in the proper fashion. Once you "feel" how it's supposed to feel it's much easier.
That said, the "idea" that helped me get it is to think about "clapping with your feet."