oversea:
As far as the weight is concerned, my reason for asking was because I heard reference to acb pockets which I had assumed went onto the harness somewhere and contained soft weight?
And while I am at it, I see oms wings seem to attach with a bungee that goes all the way around the air cell while others do not. Do others sorta "lace" up around the perimeter of the plate?
First, you should take a look at Tobin's plate. It's pretty innovative, and the bolt-on weights allow it to function either as a heavy plate or as a standard 6# plate. Flexibility can be beneficial - you never know how you might be diving 3-5 years from now.
Second, when you're talking about 'weighting' with a bp/wing, you're talking about two separate issues. You first need to determine that amount of weight which allows you to achieve neutral bouyancy - equilibrium - while holding a 10' safety stop at the conclusion of your dive: e.g. tank(s) nearly empty, wetsuit expanded - so max bouyancy, etc.
Trim, however, is not a matter of how much weight you require, but where it's located. If you think of your body as a lever and fulcrum, with your center of gravity somewhere around your hips, you'll distribute the weight you need to achieve a horizontal trim by using a combination of backplate (a heavy plate distributes more weight flat against your back, which can aid stability), trim weights (V-weights or P-weights, also called 'channel' weights), weights strung onto your webbing somewhere, or weightbelts. How long and heavy the tanks are that you're wearing also factor into trim, as well as where you're wearing them in relation to the backplate. That's a bit simplistic, but you get the idea. Where you put the weight depends on factors unique to you and your gear - no one can get on an internet chat board and tell you the best place to put your weights. You need to borrow some gear, get with a mentor or more experienced diver, and try a few things out. Otherwise, you'll end up like the rest of us with a closet full of expensive gear that you ultimately found out wasn't exactly what you needed.

FWIW, any weight that is bolted to your tanks, bolted to your backplate, or strung onto your harness webbing, isn't 'ditch-able' in an emergency. Only a weightbelt is truly 'ditch-able' weight. If being able to jettison weight in an emergency is important to you, plan accordingly.
Third, wings don't lace up with bungee around the perimeter of the plate. Wings bolt between the plate and the tanks. When using a STA, the wing bolts between the STA and the bp. The subject of bungee wings can be controversial. The idea is that the bungee lacing collapses the wing when deflated, keeping it tucked in streamlined against the body. It works, to a point. There may be a few consequences. First, orally inflating it can be interesting (given that if you're orally inflating it you're having a bad day to begin with). Second, if slit or punctured - ....."the bungee lacing collapses the wing, keeping it tucked in against the body". Third, when attempting to deflate the wing, the tucks and folds created by the bungee can tend to trap air at random points inside the wing, which may make it more challenging to maintain trim. On the whole, many feel that bungee wings create more problems than they solve. If you're undecided, review videotape of divers wearing bp/wings. You'll note that non-bungee wings simply fold up against the tanks, and seldom present any significant drag while underwater.
Best of luck with your transition.
Doc