I'd be grateful for any input anyone has on this situation. ... This past weekend I did the dry suit dives and I had TWO suit malfunctions. ... I really want to figure this out. I am supposed to do my advanced open water dive this weekend in a dry suit, but if that had happened any deeper I don't want to think what could have happened.
You have received quite a bit of good feedback. My thoughts to add: 1) Learning to dive a drysuit can take time for some. I had more than 20 DS dives, including the specialty dives, before I began to even feel comfortable and somewhat in control of the suit. After several hundred DS dives, I am still learning. You indicate that you did the DS specialty just last weekend, and are scheduled to do AOW in a DS this weekend. My hat is off to you. I would not have been able to do AOW in my DS after only a handful of dives. 2) Your description of your size and the fit of the suit suggests that a big part of your challenge was dealing with an ill-fitting (for you) suit, with lots of space just waiting to be filled by air (not to mention the equipment malfunction on the first dive). Possibly to help compensate for the fit, you probably ended up being at least amply weighted, and possibly a bit overweighted, which is not uncommon in newer DS users. At the surface, you need more weight to start your descent, because of the amount of residual air in the suit. Once under water, you add air to compensate for the extra weight. As a result, the size of the bubble gets bigger, and the effect of a shift in bubble position, from shoulders to feet, becomes more dramatic. More than a few DS divers actively purge their suits before a dive (squatting, and wrapping theirs arms tightly around them, to exhaust as much air as possible, or walking into the water, exhaust valve fully open, hands in the air, to let the water force the air from the suit, before even putting their weight belt and gear on), so that they enter the water feeling a bit shrink-wrapped, then add just enough air as they descend to prevent squeeze. 3) you asked a question about trim position, whether you should be horizontal or slightly angled. Ideally, you should be horizontal, just as you are when diving wet, with your knees bent (up to 90 degrees) and your feet up. If you have to stay slightly 'head up' to avoid going inverted, you may have too large a bubble in the suit. Several techniques have been mentioned to minimize the likelihood of a bubble shift, including keeping a very tight waist strap / weight belt, and using gaiters. I use gaiters, and while I do cinch my weight belt and waist strap fairly tight, I find the gaiters to be most helpful. Since it was a rental suit, you may also have been using lighter 'recreational' fins. A number of DS users find that heavier (negatively buoyant) fins like JetFins are more functional with a DS. This is not to suggest that you should employ an equipment solution to address a diving skill issue - establishing proper trim - but there are equipment choices (gaiters, heavier fins, etc.) that aid the DS diver. 4) You mentioned the difficulty of reacting to the stuck inflator because the gloves were so thick, and I can appreciate that. Over time, I have found that using thinner gloves is necessary, even if my hands end up being somewhat colder than I might otherwise prefer - of course, not so cold that they become numb and 'unusuable'. I have moved from 5mm or 3mm neoprene, to some lighter / thinner paddling gloves ('Warmers', obtained at REI). They are more flexible than 5mm, or even 3mm diving gloves, and considerably more durable. I use them comfortasbly in water down to the mid-50s, and use them less comfortably in water down to the low 40s.
Drysuits are absolutely wonderful! I dive dry 90% of the time now. But, they require patience, and a bit of trial and error, in order to learn to use them safely and comfortably.