Does your significant other dive?

[andrew.clisbee]

My wife doesn't dive and doesn't plan to learn! I realize now that it's better off not pressuring her to do something that I know she really won't enjoy. I've seen other couples in the same situation who end up draggin their significant other around underwater more or less against their will. It ends up making the dive less enjoyable for all. My wife and I have made peace with the fact that she doesn't want to dive, so we use the same idea that Land Locked expressed - she can shop while I dive.

And as vacations go, I just try to be as accomodating as possible - we can go somewhere that we can both enjoy - spend some time diving, and some time doing things that she enjoys.

 

[Carolina Diver]

My wife and two of my sons went through certification with me. It was a lot of fun being able to complete the process together and now we have common destinations in mind for vacation. It is also easy to get a 16 and 18 year old interested in spending time with mom and dad and still be cool.:14:

 

[JdLag1]

Can't keep my wife away from Cancun/Cozumel. Actualy can't get her off the beach! She and my daughter want nothing to do with diving. I have no intention of forcing the issue, if she is happy close to the water and I can get in the water - that works out well for both of us. I have one son who is getting certified and another son who wants to, so I got my dive buddies at least...

John

 

[scubatexastony]

My wife for 30 years, Brenda, got tired of looking at underwater photos and in June 2002, decided to get certified and hasn't stopped since. She'll hit 200 dives in the comming month and it's great to have her as my buddy! (In and out of the water)

tony

 

[parrothead600]

My wife doesn't dive. We planned on getting certified together, but a stapedectomy surgery (middle ear) disqualifies her from diving. I ended up getting certified with our 14 year old daughter.

 

[Diverblam]

I have to agree with Catherine... my husband doesn't dive. He has ear problems but also doesn't care for the tropics, the heat, the humidity, the water, etc. Everything that represents the tropics... I love and he dislikes. Its not something that we share together and sadly... it is getting harder now that I've made the decision to try out life as a DM overseas. I'll be gone for four months to see if it is the life that I want for the rest of my life... and of course, when I return, we'll need to figure things out.

We also don't share other common activities/interests... go figure.

 

[CoyKoi]

The key is that SHE decided to conquer her fear...no one should push someone to dive. They have to want it.

Amen to that! For 27 years I was the non-diving spouse (still the spouse, but now a diver). Hubby started out years ago doing recreational dives when Lloyd Bridges played Mike Nelson on Sea Hunt, later became a US Army Special Forces SCUBA team commander. His idea of diving was just another way to get to work. He never dove much recreationally because he didn't want to leave me behind, dove mostly for Army training and knew I was afraid of water.

After a wonderful experience snorkling while on our first cruise to the Caribbean in 2001, I vowed I would never again go to someplace like that and not be a diver -- even if it meant I had to overcome a horrific fear of the water and finally learn how to swim. Hubby was very encouraging, but never pushed me.

Fast forward 3 years: I'm a DM and a rabid, foam-at-the-mouth diver dragging hubby all over the place to dive. Now he's sometimes the non-diving spouse. An added suprise for him is that he's had to learn a whole new way of diving: recreational, have fun, look at those awesome fish, as opposed to "get in the water, dive, accomplish the mission". I cured that: we take trips with R.E.E.F. (www.reef.org) where we spend a whole week recording relative abundance of fish species. He enjoys the dive more with a "mission" to accomplish and I get to be with the fish.

 

[nauifins73]

I have to agree with Catherine... my husband doesn't dive. He has ear problems but also doesn't care for the tropics, the heat, the humidity, the water, etc. Everything that represents the tropics... I love and he dislikes. Its not something that we share together and sadly... it is getting harder now that I've made the decision to try out life as a DM overseas. I'll be gone for four months to see if it is the life that I want for the rest of my life... and of course, when I return, we'll need to figure things out.

We also don't share other common activities/interests... go figure.

I can appreciate your situation

 

[drbill]

She will!