Does your significant other dive?

[BIGG_BUDD]

My wife doesn't dive. But she's so beautiful, I still love her...

 

[IceIce]

I used to be at the other side. My husband liked to try out diving, but I had all the negative things to start as a diver, I couldn't swim, I was scared of fish, wreck and dark water at night. However I had one major weakness which is I always want to try everything, so I followed him and tried to dive, we were certified together.

First ten dives, I grew from hating it to so-so, (went through bad times freaking out seeing big dark coral, equipment relating stress until I realized that diving gives me feeling that I can fly), then we had our own equipment, the stress and confidence problem caused by bad equipment dissapeared and I started to enjoy the dive, we met few friends and because of that we made one big step, instead of nearby getaway, we went to great dive holiday and from that moment, I love this activity and he always says I'm more 'on' than him now.

I'm still afraid of fish, but not underwater ones, I'm afraid of those in aquarium who smell and like to jump out and land below the slipper accidentally. Hehe... I guess I'm scared of unnatural-habitated fish, if it's a word.

I think, you can try to talk your wife to try it, at least try first before she decides to hate it forever, but if she has problems, such as health or some water phobia, you have to respect her preference. We are the only couple in our diving group, the rest dive without their spouse and they are able to find some solutions for it. I have to admit that their spouse have great almost unbelievable degree of understanding, but again, I might not know the level of their relationship, whether they fight everyday or not, because we respect each other not to ask too much about personal problems. But when diving, they are the happiest person we know, although we must be the happiest and the luckiest to be together.

Fyi, I have other bizarre things I want to try, I have tried but always fail, to ask my husband to join me.

 

[nauifins73]

Yes hubby is certified (in 1969) but doesn't have much of a desire to dive anymore. I certified in 99 and I will finish my Dive Con course in July. He prefers to stay home and I love to travel. Married 32 yrs.

 

[tracker]

Wife doesn't dive. She doesn't like to do much of anything. Maybe it's because we have had to raise kids and work so hard to get ahead that we didn't have the funds or time to go outside our home area. This year is working out rather well so maybe I can get her excited enough to get out of the slump. The routine got depressing so I had to get back into it again.

 

[Azza]

My wife loves to dive...just not as much as I do. Also she is not interested in technical type diving (although she doesnt mind a little deco) which makes it hard to agree on a holiday when I want to hit the Soloman Islands that are full of wrecks in sorta deep water, and she wants to hit the GBR to look at fish.
We are still working on that one although I get the feeling if I do get my way...I will pay for it...

 

[shellbackdiver1]

My girlfriend and I got certified together....think she did it just to be with me. Ya know most (not all) Taiwanese hate the water and cant swim and the sun is like satan so I was pretty lucky that she would even attempt to do it. After more then 75 dives together she is now like a fish in the water and will decide our dive plan. She even has this grand illusion of being an instructor some day. But I must admit for the first 20 dives or so she was scared and would stick to me like glue.

 

[David P]

nope, wifey doesn't dive. Says she's clastriphobic "great, the only thing bigger than the ocean is outer space!" still no dive... she picked out what regulator she wants IF she ever decided to dive, the atomic, its pretty and I said it good quality, but no dive. I got her looking at what color custom drysuits she could order, I think it was grey with pink piping, still no dive...Finally I got her in the pool today sitting in the deepend with my long hose for about 5 minutes. She was holding on to my sholder straps with both hands, I gave her the ok sign and she wouldn't return it. She would only nod her head and no way in hell would she let go of my shoulder straps!

 

[alan_lee]

I actually first started my lessons when I was in University 12 years ago, but didn't complete it cos I had a cold and had to miss my OW. It's my girlfriend who encouraged me to sign up again. She's logged over 200 dives, but hasn't dived for 3 years cos her old buddy has gotten too busy, and so now I'm her new buddy. Haven't dived together yet, so I'm yet to find out whether it's bliss or hell! LOL! An underwater argument would be interesting.

 

[Kwbyron]

I checked no...but think not-yet should have been an option. I talked my wife into snorkeling last year when we were in Hawaii, but her snorkel leaked and kept filling with water(we swapped, it wasn't technique) I am trying to get her to try it, she said she doesn't like to exert effort to breath...I told her that it's rather natural. I am going to do like David did and take her to the bottom of the pool next time I come back from a dive... problem is she doesn't like the cold, and being up here, I'll have to get her certified on vacation, so she'll probably be a warm water only girl.... As for now, our solution would be: while I dive, she goes to the spa.

 

[victor]

Wife is scared of the water. She did 2 discovery dives last year on vacation which took a lot. I am hoping the youngest girl will learn to dive, 13 now, if we move somewhere warm. Maybe my son but he is only 9 and not mature enough to dive.
Reading some of the entries there is hope that I can turn my wife around.