DIY dedicated BM and SM sets are better than trying to switch back and forth
Correct.
- soft plate for SM is more comfortable than the metal plates like in Andy Davis' DIY instruction
In my experience, yes, and I'll be more specific. The metal back-plates don't dig into the skin or anything. The issue I had, was the SideMount BCD wanted to "bunch up," especially on the surface with an inflated BCD.
I'm currently using OMS IQ Lite for BM and really really love it.
Since you have a BM BCD that you love, keep it for your BM dives. Used BCD's have terrible resale value.
Personally, I haven't dove BM since switching to SM, but keep my BM BPW around in case I need it, such as for a class or loaner.
At least one SM kit will be used to teach SM at some point in the future, and the other SM kit for guiding.
This sub-point may require a separate thread. Maybe you know what you're doing, so this isn't a direct criticism, but rather something I'd say with limited info. I may also be misreading your post a little, so don't take this personally.
If someone told me
"There's a local SM instructor and they're offering a course which uses a hybrid or DIY SM BCD," I'd tell them this throws off red-flags and to find another SM instructor. Ideally, when a student leaves your class, they should be able to reliably setup their own SM BCD with ease using off-the-shelf components. SM is frustrating and complex enough, that you should be adding to the complexity by adding a non-standard SM BCD to the mix. The average person does not enjoy, nor are they good at DIY. But if people are paying for classes, I'd strongly recommend against cutting corners, and and treat the SM BCDs as an investment.
Sidemount started out as a sort of DIY community who hacked together a sidemount kit, because commercial solutions were not available, or not as good as DIY. SM divers in many ways had to be a little crazy. These days, off-the-shelf SM BCDs have taken all the lessons from the crazy DIY kit and produced something semi-reliable, stable, and comfortable. There are better-or-worse commercial SM BCDs, but most are better than anything you can DIY hack together in a reasonable time.
The people doing still DIY SM BCDs are generally doing so because either a) they're on a limited budget or b) they REALLY love experimenting! It took me quite a while to get my DIY SM BCD dialed in and comfortable. Everything from choosing the right webbing, or replacing components, parts, etc, I didn't really end up saving that much money (if any), over buying a commercial one with great reviews at lightly-used prices. I learned a lot and really enjoy the DIY process, but an average person probably wouldn't enjoy the same thing.