Crush
Contributor
Hi all,
I am curious about how DIR practitioners should and do deal with DIR-trained insta-buddies, or even non-DIR-trained insta-buddies. When I dive with insta-buddies I find that my buddy quickly becomes too far away to be of help, if not out of sight. I do my best to keep up with my insta-buddy when following, and when leading I try to constantly check on my buddy. However this is usually not reciprocated - if I happen to stop to snap a quick photo I find myself alone. True, I don't discuss our buddy plans while on the boat, but I have found that those discussions have no influence on insta-buddy behaviour once in the water. I have taken a very limited amount of DIR training and know better, but I find that I am now willing to continue on with my dive (solo) if my buddy loses me if the dive is shallow and I am near the boat since I know that, in my experience, no insta-buddy of mine has ever initiated a lost-buddy search when we have become separated.
Clarification: if my insta-buddy is leading, swimming so fast that I am having difficulty keeping up, is inattentive and loses me several times in one dive, I am willing to abandon them during the dive by not searching for them the next time that they lose me. If I am leading I don't lose my insta-buddy, and if I did I would search for them.
How bad am I for behaving like this? Or do others do similar things, despite their DIR training? Or is it simpler to avoid the situation by not diving with insta-buddies?
I am curious about how DIR practitioners should and do deal with DIR-trained insta-buddies, or even non-DIR-trained insta-buddies. When I dive with insta-buddies I find that my buddy quickly becomes too far away to be of help, if not out of sight. I do my best to keep up with my insta-buddy when following, and when leading I try to constantly check on my buddy. However this is usually not reciprocated - if I happen to stop to snap a quick photo I find myself alone. True, I don't discuss our buddy plans while on the boat, but I have found that those discussions have no influence on insta-buddy behaviour once in the water. I have taken a very limited amount of DIR training and know better, but I find that I am now willing to continue on with my dive (solo) if my buddy loses me if the dive is shallow and I am near the boat since I know that, in my experience, no insta-buddy of mine has ever initiated a lost-buddy search when we have become separated.
Clarification: if my insta-buddy is leading, swimming so fast that I am having difficulty keeping up, is inattentive and loses me several times in one dive, I am willing to abandon them during the dive by not searching for them the next time that they lose me. If I am leading I don't lose my insta-buddy, and if I did I would search for them.
How bad am I for behaving like this? Or do others do similar things, despite their DIR training? Or is it simpler to avoid the situation by not diving with insta-buddies?