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ling once bubbled...
How long is long???How long do you think a couple should date before getting married?
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Dunno.... there is no correct answer to this question.

Me and the missus....... 18 months (but we were living together after less than 6 months), but we knew it was "right" almost immediately, and as to when after that, the delay is not at all important.

We have no firm religious ideas, of course, if strong religious views start comming into play, then things change considerably :(

Jon T
 
Me and my wife engaged and moved in together a week after we met, and we where married five months later (and I thought that I would never want to get married!!).
It just felt right, people thought we where mad, we are still happily married eight years later.
 
Age, maturity, and life experiences help in ascertaining if someone is right for you and vice versa. Therefore they would logically impact the amount of time needed to know the answer to your question. So the real answer is....it varies!
 
My first husband and I were engaged a few days after we met but chose to wait to live together because he was in college. We lasted 18 years and are really good friends right now. My current SO was almost the samething. We had a very strong (that's an understatement) attraction, to each other and have been together since that first day. IMO, when the right person comes along you will know it. When that little voice in your head stops asking if your doing the right thing, then you know it is right. If you have any doubt at all, don't do it. Good luck with whatever you choose to do.
 
cobaltbabe once bubbled...
IMO, when the right person comes along you will know it. When that little voice in your head stops asking if your doing the right thing, then you know it is right. If you have any doubt at all, don't do it. Good luck with whatever you choose to do.
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IMO Cobaltbabe has it right. If you have to ask if it is right then it isn't.

If it is right, then the time between realising it is right, and the actually getting married is totally irrelevant. Certainly IF I had't married my wife when I did, it would have changed absolutely nothing.

Jon T
 
Hmmm waiting to get married.. all I can say is that planning the marrige is the thing that creates the most problem, hence the elimination of it with my wife and I. We dated 3 months and lived 1385 miles apart. We flew and/or drove back and forth and went on minivacations and adventures before finally aloping and settling what we knew from the get go.

Here's a pic - I wrote and coreographed the whole ceremony, had a friend who is a j/p do the ceremony, and well.. mother nature played along to. 2.5 years later, we have a wonderful little boy and our marrige is stronger than ever. :)
 
And that is what it is all about. Congrats on the success of your relationship. The only people who really matter in your relationship is you and your partner to start with. Children obviously make it better but it has to be you and your partner first.

Marriage is wonderful in it's own right, but honestly it is just a ring and a piece of paper.
 
of all places (everyone said it wouldn't last:wacko: ), got engaged 3 months later. Finally got married a year or so after that.

That was 16 years ago, and I haven't regretted a day of it. When it's right it just happens and I promise you'll know it.;)
 
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