Hi,
I am new to this forum and might've posted this in the wrong category, if that is the case, I apologize and humbly ask you to move it to the appropiate one. English also isn't my first language so I apologize for any typos etc.
Anyway, the reason I registered on this forum was to share an experience with fellow divers so that you can give your input on the diving experience and possibly tell me if I am way out of my depth (no pun intended) and who is wrong: Me or the or diving centre.
Background
I have an advanced diving certificate and my partner whom is very scared of deep water has basically never ever been snorkeling. Meaning she has barely been under water and has never seen a BCD/octopus etc.
Anyway I convinced her to a fun dive with a diving centre a couple of weeks ago in Thailand, we had positive expectations based on our initial interactions with the team. They assured that my partner without any diving experience would have the opportunity to practice essential diving skills on the beach/in the pool, such as breathing, swimming, and other necessary techniques to qualify for a real dive. Regrettably, the actual experience significantly deviated from our expectations.
At the day of the dive the weather was pretty chaotic. We called them at the morning informing them about the weather conditions, including large waves and heavy rain. I was pretty nervous for my partners sake, a fun dive in my world should be fun and not an episode of Fear factor.
Anyway, despite our hesitation, they gave us their reassurance that my partner could practice all the necessary aspects as promised at the beach, and that the dive would occur at a calm place in the ocean, I quote: "We do this everyday - It's fine".
However, our experience took an alarming turn when we were taken into the open sea (instead of the beach as promised) amidst the challenging weather conditions. Even I, (a semi-experienced diver) was nervous to jump into this turbulent water (the waves were several metres high and the rain was at its peak) without any rehearseal (haven't been diving for like 5 years), I can't even imagine how my partner felt. My partner, was immediately instructed to jump in and swim down to a depth of 10 meters, without adequate surface instruction or the opportunity to acclimate to the equipment. She possesses minimal familiarity with underwater breathing techniques and orientation or mask-clearing, and has never worn fins or a BCD before. She barely knew how to descend and she had no idea what the different buttons on the BCD do. She didn't know how to breathe in & out the regulator.
However she was instructed to jump into the chaotic water and immediately descend to the the ocean floor (10m down) and there my partner was instructed to fill her mask with water and empty it. encountered difficulties since she has no idea how to do it, leading to her mask filling up with water, striking her with panic and forcing us to resurface.This approach, akin to throwing someone out of a plane without any practical training on how to deploy a parachute, left her deeply distressed. The lack of proper guidance and training at the beach/surface and the subsequent trauma she experienced have left a lasting negative impact. She will probably never dive again because of this experience.
Our experience was highly unusual and potentially unsafe. I would like to think that neglecting safety measures to expedite the dive for financial gain is both shameful and unethical, and it is disheartening to think that someones well being is jeopardized for monetary reasons.
In light of the distressing events, we requested a refund for her dive (not my dive, only hers, even though I was forced to ascend because of this well). Additionally, we expected a apology for the disregard of her safety and the subsequent emotional trauma experienced by my partner. We understand the importance of maintaining a positive reputation in the diving community, and we hoped this incident could have been amicably resolved. However the diving centre totally ignored us without giving us any reply back. I really don't care about the money, I honestly just got really sad for my partner, she feels like she sucks at diving and that it isn't for her because of this incident. And it actually might not be for her, but I don't feel like a dive like this can decide that.
To the questions:
1. Am I wrong for asking for an apology and the money for her dive back?
2. Should I file a complaint or something to PADI?
3. What would you do in my situation?
Thank you for reading and also, I won't mention the name of the diving centre just yet unless I get green light from other divers that they were wrong in the matter.
Thank you, and once again, apologies if this is in the wrong category.