Okay, here's my advice:
Go get yourself a nice non-alcoholic beverage of your choice (something like iced tea or lemonade). Now, turn on the TV and find something relaxing and mildly enjoyable (but not a big action movie), or put on some nice music. Once you're set, lie down on the couch, enjoy your entertainment, and sip your beverage. If you think about it, take a deep breath once in a while, but don't bother pushing yourself.
There, now after five or ten minutes, even more if you're enjoying yourself, casually observe your own breathing. Don't think about it too much or you'll change it, of course. (If you're a techie, use a camera with video recording capability and you can just go back and look at your breathing later.)
Anyway, the rate you end up breathing is your resting rate. When you're diving, if you notice yourself breathing significantly faster than that (and you're not fighting a current or battling an evil space squid), *slow down* and *calm down*. Take some deeper breaths to help yourself relax. If you're not drift diving, take the next place you look and play a little game of "Where's Waldo?" -- enjoy the colors, look at the structure, or just examine the texture (even silt has texture).
Trying to fix your breathing is like trying to push a dog by a leash. It's thinking about things the wrong way around. Instead, calm yourself down, learn to relax, and of course, *definitely* fix your trim and buoyancy. (You *can't* dial in your buoyancy without first finding horizontal trim. It's simple physics, at least if you can think in vectors.)
Anyway, the fact you're thinking about breathing and buoyancy and all is a good thing, but don't fall into the usual trap of trying to "fix your breathing". Breathing is a *result* of your diving. :biggrin: