blah, after all that reading and thinking and watching videos, etc. i went snorkeling and scubaing for 10 days and it was easy to equalize while scuba, but i can't do it for snorkel.
when scubaing, i can always equalize by breathing in for a long time and opening my jaw and getting my ears set, just so. it works really good for me. repeatedly, on command, it always works. but i can't or don't like to do it any other way.
when snorkeling, i can't equalize because none of the other ways work for me or are very uncomfortable, stressful, and i don't like hurting my ears just to try to figure this out. at this point in time. perhaps in the future, i can fool around with it.