Had a friend whose wife is very tall and thin with a long slender neck. She had the same issue as you wife when she bought her drysuit. She found that she was able to get a better fit with a latex neck seal. I recall that she and her husband have Mares XR suits with the kevlar panels which came stock with the si-tech systems installed.
Si-Tech makes a latex neck seal for their neck ring system and it comes in 3 sizes compared to the 2 sizes of their silicone neck seal:
Latex Neck - for neck system - Seals - Products - SI-TECH
Note also that the si-tech silicone wrist seals come in standard and small sizes and if the small is too big, one can also use latex seals with the wrist ring system too.
BTW, if you are using Waterproof brand silicone seals, while they are made by Si-Tech, I find that they fit looser than Si-Tech seals due to the differences in shape that Waterproof specs for their label.
-Z