Is it a matter of expertise, an absolute value of dives, your specialty certifications or the different situations you faced? A bit of all but I believe the latter matters the most. So I would like to ask my AOW instructor (that I really trust) to elaborate a training plan and dive me through the below predicaments so that I am prepared the day I go on diving trips with people I don’t know. I like challenges and I love diving but I am very cautious and (uncontrolled) risk averse. What do you think I should add the list?:
My first recommendation would be to consolidate and gain practice and comfort it the skills and procedures already taught. Many people never bother to achieve this.
Having complete comfort and relaxation in the water (not being mistaken for complacency) is the first step. So many people have a bit of a flap when something simple goes wrong (freeflow, disconnected LPI hose etc) even simple water splashing on their face in choppy seas puts people outside their comfort zone.
In water comfort provides a solid base from which to work on other skills. A simple test, can you easily open pockets on yoru BCD or adjust straps without a loss of buoyancy or trim? A lot of people make a huge fuss over shooting a dsmb (lots on nonsense written on SB) it's an easy skill, yest you need to figure the mechanic of the best use of your hands, but the fact so many struggle with buoyancy because their slightly task loaded means they're still inexperienced in the basics.
Maintaining blue water position just with lung capacity is a fundamental skill. People who have to rely on holding on to a line for anything more than holding against current need to practice more.
Diving in strong currents (if possible vertical in addition to horizontal and washing machines) and getting out of it.
Currents - most people don't dive currents (I discount drift dives because its just hanging about in a flow). Proper currents (you stated washing machine currents) are scary places for most people. Currents are my thing. I'm happiest jumping into them, and yes get hit by true washing machine type situations a few times a year
The analogy to comfort I can think of is being a passenger in a car being driven around a track. when it's going slowly everyone will be relaxed. As it goes faster you transition through anxious to scared)
Currents are a sensory overload. they test yoru mental bandwidth for clear thought. The most basic for most is having to kick hard to cross one. elevated breathing etc causes "tunnel vision" where the diver's focus is just on kicking and breathing and nothing else. In proper current you need to have achieved the ability to maximise your mental bandwidth so you can think clearly and decisively, you're life might depend on it. There's no course for this. It comes from experience and in small steps.
So my standard advice is that divers should get an excellent grasp of the basic foundational skills, learn simple positional kicks (helicopter turns and back kick, so they can maneuver around a reef without sculling with their hands. and be really comfortable with their equipment underwater before moving forward too quickly
That's not to say instruction isn't valid its always a good idea to go out with someone whose particular skills you admire to work on a particular item, much like going to a golf pro for a tune up