Properly weighted = neutral buoyancy at safety stop or last deco stop depth (6 meters)
Properly trimmed = you hold perfect horizontal position in the water being pulled from neither side nor front/back
Everyone is different. You need to try what works best for you and how you feel most comfortable. We can talk all day about "what I do", but you definitely need to do it in the types of water you will dive in. If it is fresh water, go to a pool, in salt water, guess what??
It is fun, and you should not be bashed for asking like at the previous board. At least you are thinking. Only stupid people who suggest stupid things need to be prepared for a pounding.
have fun.