Being disoriented on an ascent might be scary, but it should not be that dangerous for a pair of competent divers. I get the feeling that the perceived desperation was closely associated with the reluctance to make a mid water ascent.
Most of us in this thread acknowledge that even competent divers can become extremely incompetent when affected by narcosis. I don’t actually care if you wish to dig your heels in with your interpretation because I’ll happily be incompetent but unhurt diver for awhile still.
In my opinion the over the top desperation about everything was directly linked to the narcosis. I would have had no problem making the ascent from 75 ft once my head cleared. The muck layer was still above me at that point. Leaving aside how irrational my analysis was at 100ft, I know of very few divers who’d wish to risk out of control ascent from 100ft when they truly believe that it is in the cards.
flailing around on the bottom, seeing things, being unable to effectively monitor depth or follow a compass heading, inability to effective regulate buoyancy control devices(s) are all symptoms of a diver who is very vulnerable and not in control. Continuing to absorb additional nitrogen and expend more air at depth is NOT helpful. Think what would have happened if one of them would have become tangled in fishing line and/or had a free flow. It would have likely been more than they could handle.
You are jumping into conclusions. While I agree with a lot what you say about narcosis in general, you also make it sound like this relates to the dive in question. While I was freaking out about the ascent (for several reasons I actually mulled through), I can tell you that neither of us eg never touched the bottom. Our computer profiles are identical and smooth, no jerking around. We had absolutely no problems following a compass heading, we just did not even think of looking at the compass. Once we did, everything made sense. I was obsessively testing myself, buddy, and the equipment. This could have easily lead to further ridiculous incidents but I am dead-sure both of us were still in condition to perform emergency skills like air shares, bag-shoots, valve shut downs etc. I am one of those weirdo divers who practice all the time. We had just done skills for 30 minutes. I am not going to swear but my judgment even at the most impaired was that I trusted us to pull the basic life-saving stuff off, albeit slowed down and ugly. If I believed not, I would have started coming up come what may. I never got the “I will die here” stuff. If I felt it was coming to that, it would have been bat out of hell.
There is no reason to make this stupid story into something that it is not. It is not supposed to be about how skilled or non-skilled diver I am. It is how incredibly, universally stupid narcosis can make anyone. It’s about how not to get into that situation.
I agree that ascending is the answer to narcosis but there might me some cases where even a rec diver cannot just blow to the surface or where it might not be the immediate answer. I would not do it in some other rec places I dive either (eg I'd use couple of minutes to get back to down line rather than be torn down current in midwater etc).
Anyone diving to 100 feet should be able to make a solo ascent in bad vis without a whole lot of trouble. The diver needs to be absolutely confident of this. The whole premise of open water recreational diving is that somebody can “Run for the surface” in 2 minutes or so, if things get really bad. Of course this is more of a last resort, but it needs to be in the back of the diver’s mind, even when narced.
Next time I meet a diver who requires me to be absolutely confident about anything when I get narced I will probably choose to say No Thanks. I’ve gained enough respect for narcosis to fall for that.