I'm very sorry to hear that. I'm amazed that anyone could have that experience and not learn a couple thousand lessons.
Rather than grapple with multi-quote, I'll stick my initials.
Lots of lessons to learn from that cluster.
JC: Agreed, I just wasn't sure which ones yet.
First lesson: If he was dog paddling, it's an indication that he's not ready to leave the pool. That's a very big deal, you you guys took him to 40 m? You should have refused to take him on the dives.
JC: Again, agreed. I wouldn't again in a similar situation.
Second lesson: You had no instructors or DMs in the group. How was the guy going a deep diver course? Why are 3 of the divers designated as "guides?" They have no qualifications to act as guides. An intern is an intern, not a DM. He's in class. You have almost twice the experience needed to qualify for a Master Diver card, why would you look to the MSD as a leader? The commercial diver should have been competent to make the dives, but not necessarily competent to take care of any of the rest of the group, besides 6 divers is quite a few to be watching out for on a deep dive.
JC: Sorry, I didn't explain that well. The commercial diver was an instructor that the dive op hired out as a guide on an ad-hoc basis.
Third lesson: You had
minor alarm bells going off while thinking this is a "good way to die?" Those bell should have been major and for good reason, you could have had several deaths on those dives. You were more afraid of how you would look than of dying? That's not rational.
JC: Agreed. I succombed to peer pressure.
Good plan especially with him churing up silt in the wreck with his dog paddling.
JC: Well, I was going to be happier having an overall view of what was happening as I was concerned. If it was silted up I wasn't going to go in.
So far, fo good
JC: Yep
Telling him about the dangers was one of the good things you did.
JC: Yes, although it might have contributed to his anxiety - and whilst that should be the desired response, at the time it could have added to his stress.
First, he wasn't a DM. Second, you don't need anyone's permission to abort a dive. Your buddy needed to be at the surface, you should have taken him there.
JC: Well, I could have but I still feel it would have been better to really force the issue of calling the dive and having someone from the Op come with us. I'm am not Resuce certified and this didn't seem to be a good time to learn.
There was no need to press the issue. You should have aborted the dive with your buddy.
JC: See above.
Good move, although you shouldn't have gone in even if you'd had an excellent buddy.
JC: Agreed, peer pressure. I'll get the training.
Perhaps you should raise your standards a little. Not dying is not the same as doing well.
JC: Agreed, but I'd say my friend did well not to die.
That's your lesson? You can screw up terribly and life to tell the tale?
JC: Nope, as mentioned earlier, I'm in the process of working out what the lessons are - and your post is one of several that are helping in the process.
Wonder no more. I wouldn't call you a sissy because you thought there were problems with these dives. OTOH, while I wouldn't call you a sissy, I'd think it because you didn't protest and refuse to participate in things you knew were wrong.
JC: Agreed.
Any time there's anything over your head that prevents you from ascending directly to the surface.
JC: Subjective, no? I think TSandM describes scenarios that wouldn't sensibly be considered overhead environments, such as small swim throughs not requiring single file. She also mentions 'prepared wrecks'. Maybe this was a prepared wreck? I don't know. Doubt it tho. Ultimately pack mentality took hold.
Guess again.
Anytime there's natural material (rock/coral etc.) over your head that prevents you from ascending directly to the surface. The difference between cavern and cave varies. Generally, if you have natural light and are less than 100 ft from the entrance, you're in a cavern.
JClynes:
When is entering a wreck penetration? Where's the line? I'm still not sure whether I broke the rules by penetrating the wreck or whether I'm just being overly cautious.
When any part of the wreck isover your head and prevents you from ascending directly to the surface. You broke them.
JC: Agreed.
The dive is over and you exit the water.
My god, you've logged 90 dives, get out of hand holding mode. Besides, there were no pros on the dive.
JC: See my comment ref: learning rescue on the fly. Or the potential to.
You should be learning the skills properly or you shouldn't be passing the course.
JC: Very much agreed. But that's not how it always is. It's only since joining this board that I realised I didn't know how to dive. Now at least I know that I don't know and I practise most weeks.
JC: Damn, even the simple quoting thing isn't working. I won't even tell you what my profession is. Will try second half in separate post and see how that goes