Dan at Diver Dan's was confused about my problem (I didn't buy it from them, but I did discuss it with him while helping my gf with wetsuits). The suit seems to fit well when dry. Seals are good and tight. Not much extra room. There's a little bit of bulging at the zipper when I move my arms, and a little room in the neck.
Sounds like the suit is a good fit, then.
I did a surface swim out to Tanker's (urchin culling). Comfy during swim. Pretty sure there was 0 water in the core of my suit when I dropped down through the thermocline to 30', temp 53F. Then, it felt COLD. Like I was in a very cold room. Not like there was water exchange, just everything felt cold immediately.
First off, thanks for doing your part to contribute to the urchin culling experiment! Keep in mind that when you drop down to 30 feet, the pressure is double versus at the surface, so the suit will compress to maybe half to two-thirds its surface thickness. That brings the ocean a few mm closer to your body, which reduces the insulating properties of the neoprene by a little bit. So suit compression can explain some amount of chilliness. Also, any air trapped inside the suit will have either compressed to half its original size, or escaped entirely, which would cool you down a bit as well.
Maybe I should have waited a little bit for the space in the suit to heat up but I ended up intentionally flooding the suit to get water next to my body to warm up. When I flooded it, it felt like there was no water inside as I could feel it running down my back.
Hmm, I'm with Diver Dan, I don't get this. Wetsuits do not need water in them to keep you warm, every drop of water that does get in will make you a little bit colder. So flooding the suit to get water next to your body will not warm you up. This is a common misconception. Or, maybe I have misunderstood what you're saying.
MLL in SolaFx seems to be a great size for me based on the numbers and we're approaching Diver Dan's sale window, so that's my fallback. Not ready for dry suit yet
If the fit is substantially better than your Bare, then it might help. But fit aside, these 2 suits are practically the same thing. I hope the 3mm helps.
There is a way to simulate the issue
@-JD- is concerned with, which is definitely a safety concern. Go to a site with a hard bottom at the deepest depth you normally dive. Maybe N. Monastery, or outside the cove in Pt Lobos, for example. At the beginning of the dive, your tank will be full, and at a deep depth, your suit will be very compressed. This is the most negative you can be, so is the worst case scenario for a wing failure. Find a spot on the hard bottom where you won't disturb any life there, and completely empty your BC / wing. You should be able to swim upward.
If you cannot do so, then you should consider how you would handle such a scenario were your wing to actually fail. In a wetsuit, your best option might be a pretty bad one -- dump weight. If that's the plan, then you will want to be able to dump just a little at a time, like 2-4 lb increments. Just enough to let you swim up off the bottom. Once you swim up a little, like 10 or 20 feet, your suit will begin to expand, which will make the rest of the ascent less work, but you may be dangerously buoyant as you reach the surface, since you dumped the weight at the bottom. So the less you had to dump, the safer you'll be in the last 10-30 feet of ascent, which are far and away the most dangerous part for DCS or AGE injuries.
BTW if you do this test, you don't need to swim all the way up to the surface, and you certainly don't need to actually dump your weight. Just empty your wing and see if you are able to swim up 20 feet or so off the bottom, and then continue on to enjoy your dive.